December 2016 - Slowing down

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In this Issue: 
Reflections: Slowing Down
Events: Magic Carpet Ride Workshops
Inspirational links: Guest Blog from Julie Daley of Unabashedly Female

Reflections: Slowing Down

This month I really have no idea yet for a theme for these reflections. At least, I didn't when I began. AS I reached the place in the set-up where I am asked for a subject line, the words 'Slowing down' popped into my head.

Sometimes it feels, especially at this point - the end of November - as if the pace of life is speeding up .If you have much to do to prepare for Christmas celebrations that will almost certainly be the case. For friends in the USA who have just finished with Thanksgiving for another year, I have no idea how you manage two such large events in quick succession.

And - for me, it still seems that slowing down is precisely what is needed. It will be time soon to plan for the new year ahead and all that I may wish to bring into action in 2017. Now, even in the midst of busy times, can be an opportunity. My recent workshop at the Blue Lotus, and the forthcoming one in Launceston (see more below) - prompted thoughts on 'Review, Reflect, and Re-Vision'. My personal spelling of 'revision' indicating that the time is not yet come to plan, simply to gain perspective on the year past, and see  more clearly the things that I wish to continue into next year.

I also see, now, as I write, that this is a continuation of the autumn theme of reaping the harvest of the year, winnowing the golden grains from the chaff. Continuing in the sense of reviewing what those golden grains represent; choosing which to store carefully away; which to plant soon; maybe which to gift to others. Writing, as always, in my own experiencing, in real time, here - talking with you through the screen, through these words - this may resonate with you. Or it may not, it may for you be a piece of chaff. Either way is perfect, the offer is there to share this fleeting experience, which I do freely in the knowing that in so doing you may find a nugget of gold of your own.

For me, this process cannot happen without slowing down. In the way that the pulse of the natural world slows in winter. As the plants become dormant, withdraw in self-protection against the cold, preserve resources for fresh growth in the spring - so we human beings need some time to turn inwards to ourselves.



That this opportunity comes at a time when many of us are busy with families and friends offers both a challenge and an opportunity. Maybe some of this process is best activated in community, not solely by ourselves, valuable as that lone contemplation can be?

For you, for your journal or meditation practice:
- if any phrase or word resonates with you from this piece, choose to flow write or meditate on those words
- what emerges for you?
- what gifts can you find within?
- do you wish to paint, draw, collage - express this visually in some way?

Forthcoming Events: Magic Carpet Ride Workshops

Monday 12 December, at The Business Space, Launceston.



This event is a little different as the room has been kindly donated by Annie Mitchell from Bamham Farm Cottages. This is being promoted in conjunction with Gemma Massey from TME Networking, and the plan is to hold a two hour workshop using the tried and tested 'Magic Carpet Ride' formula, with time for networking before and afterwards.

Arrive from 9.15 am, through to 12.30 pm.The price for this one-off event is £20 per person. Book here.

The information for all events is on the Dare to Blossom website as usual. Please contact me with any questions you may have.

Return of the Light - Illumination for 2017: Global Online Magic Carpet Ride Circle

Booking for the next on-line Magic Carpet Ride Circle is now open, with the Early Bird price ending on 7th December. Join a global group to explore how you wish to illuminate your year ahead in 2017 - whether business, career, health, relationships, creativity - any or all of these, you will receive insights and support here. More details and booking link here.

We start on Saturday 7th January, and run through five full weeks together, closing our circle on Friday 10th February. Each Tuesday evening at 7.30 pm GMT there will be the opportunity to join a group check-in call to share our experiences. This will be recorded in case you are not able to join us, and for you to listen again if you do as there will be many rich seams to explore through this process.

Each week you will receive a new guided visualisation to help you access your own inner wisdom. We will use the prompts of the Dare to Blossom Rediscovery Cards and a daily practice each week through a closed Facebook group where we can gather as if in a room together and support each other.

I know that many readers of this newsletter do not wish to be involved with Facebook, if there is enough interest, I could, as before, set up an email group - and you would still of course be very welcome to join the live group calls each Tuesday. Please contact me if this appeals to you.

The Early Bird price is £25 so book now to reserve your place. After 7 December the price will be £30.

Saturday 21 January at the Blue Lotus Therapy Centre, Scorrier


 

Returning to our new venue in a beautiful wooded setting at the Blue Lotus Therapy Centre, for the first of six workshops in 2017.

Continuing the tried and tested process, we will share creative visualisation, writing exercises, discussion, laughter - all those ingredients that people tell me make big breakthroughs possible for them. The freedom of the imagery of the magic carpet, combined with the Rediscovery Cards will allow you to experience a reconnection with your intuition, your inner wisdom.

For the New Year, in the sometimes dark days of January, we will focus on the time ahead, and journey together for illumination and inspiration for 2017. Knowing that the light always returns with the turning of the seasons; the new shoots will grow, produce leaves, blossom and fruit.

Venue: The Blue Lotus Therapy Centre,  Scorrier, Redruth, Cornwall, TR16 5AR Full directions can be found here.

 Date: Saturday 21st January 2017

Times: arrive from 9.30 am to settle in with a hot drink, start 10.00 am, end at 1.00 pm

Price: £25.00 per person. Book your place here.

Future events in 2017

Following the success of the first workshop at the Blue Lotus, I have booked dates throughout 2017, all Saturdays from 10 am to 1 pm:

21 January (see above)
18 March
13 May
 8 July
 9 September
18 November

I am still looking out for a similarly magical venue in east Cornwall, do let me know if you hear of anywhere. In the meantime, Dare to Blossom at Home workshops can be booked at any time: if you are in Cornwall or west Devon and are interested in exploring the option to host a group of friends in your own home, have a look at the website here and contact me so we can arrange a chat to discuss what you would like.

Inspirational Links

I have so many friends writing amazing inspirational blogs that I have decided to feature one of them here each month:

Here is Julie Daley of Unabashedly Female writing on how a walk can be a question.... Read here.

Writing now, on 30th November, it feels too early to wish you Merry Christmas, so I will simply send you a blurry, slightly festive, photo of our outdoor lights from last year ....



As always, please feel free to comment below with your thoughts and comments. 

If you would like to own a set of Dare to Blossom Rediscovery cards to explore their power for yourself please visit the dedicated page.

Thank you dear friends for visiting with me again this month and sharing my musings.

Until next time,

with love,

November 2016 - Mellow Moments

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In this Issue: 
Reflections: Mellow Moments
Events: The Vibrant Living Show,  Dare to Blossom Workshops in Cornwall, plus the 2017 global online programme
New book: "The Dare to Blossom Rediscovery Cards Companion Guide"
Unusual gifts
Inspirational links

Reflections: Mellow Moments

It is amusing me that I chose this title for my reflections this month. I am not sure if I feel particularly 'mellow' just at this moment. I have embarked on finishing a whole lot of projects that have been hovering around, incomplete, for a while. The creating part is relatively easy for me; grappling with various online editing systems is not.

However, sitting here at my computer, the blank page in front of me, ready to write to you, I looked out of my window at the autumn sunshine in my garden. And, remembering the harvest we have been gathering, the walks I have been enjoying, and the anticipation of slowing down for a couple of days this week to spend time with family - yes, taking a deep breath, I can feel a little of the mellowness creeping in for me. So I set this as an intention: to allow myself some mellow moments, to seek them out. To enjoy the autumn sunshine when it appears, especially as it has today, following torrential rain and winds.

The autumn colours are only just emerging here in Cornwall and I have yet to take any new photos, so I will share these from past years:





Many years ago, when I ran Pydar Crafts, my business making copper enamel jewellery, one of my most popular lines was an autumn leaf brooch. I don't have one myself which is rather sad, but I can remember the people who visited my stall at the craft shows. They would spend such time and care choosing the perfect one for a gift - there was a selection of colours: from red and bronze to green and yellow. Being handmade, no two were exactly alike. A beautiful memory, a mellow moment.



If you are in the USA, many of your autumn moments may involve pumpkins for Halloween and Thanksgiving. As well as colours these may bring back the smells of your mother's baking; the texture of the pumpkin flesh as you carved it out; the tingles of delight as a child as you saw the scary face you had made illuminated by the candle inside. My husband and I don't grow the big pumpkins any more, though we did have some whoppers one year. Here is a photo taken at the Eden Project one year when they had just had a pumpkin carving day and these creations were on display.




So, where have these meanderings on 'mellow moments' taken me today? The enjoyable memories for one. And a sense of resting in that sense of completion of the cycles of the year, the harvest time, the leaves having done their jobs. The earlier sunshine was replaced by a shower and that in turn has now given way to a brighter sky again, with the trees lit against a backdrop of dark clouds. 

For you, for your journal or meditation practice:
- allow yourself to reminisce on some 'mellow moments', maybe browsing old photos as I have done
- what memories emerge for you?
- what gifts can you find within?

Events: the Vibrant Living Show, Dare to Blossom Workshops in Cornwall, plus the 2017 global online programme

I will be exhibiting, and giving a talk (at 1 pm, entitled "Will you dare to blossom?") at the Vibrant Living Show on 12th November from 10-4 at Heartlands, Pool, Cornwall. Further details here, or on Facebook here.

Winter Magic Carpet Ride - Review, Reflect, Re-Vision

Two workshops are coming up for the closing months of 2016, both on the theme of 'Reflect, Review, Re-Vision', looking back and choosing what to take forward to the new year ahead. Full details are here on the website page.

Saturday 19 November, at the Blue Lotus Therapy Centre, Scorrier, Redruth

As the year closes, join us at a new location for a morning of shared reflection, to review and re-vision the year, and look forward to the future. We will share creative visualisation, writing exercises, discussion, laughter - all those ingredients that people tell me make big breakthroughs possible for them. The freedom of the imagery of the magic carpet, combined with the Rediscovery Cards will allow you to experience a reconnection with your intuition, your inner wisdom. 

As usual, arrive at 9.30 to settle in for 10 am start through to 1pm, as usual, and the price per person is £25. Book Here.

Monday 12 December, at The Business Space, Launceston.



This event is a little different as the room there has been kindly donated by Annie Mitchell from Bamham Farm Cottages. This is being promoted in conjunction with Gemma Massey from TME Networking, and the plan is to hold a two hour workshop using the tried and tested 'Magic Carpet Ride' formula, with time for networking before and afterwards.

Arrive from 9.15 am, through to 12.30 pm.The price for this one-off event is £20 per person. Book here.

The information for all events is on the Dare to Blossom website as usual. Please contact me with any questions you may have.

Return of the Light - Illumination for 2017: Global Online Magic Carpet Ride Circle

Early notice of the next on-line Magic Carpet Ride Circle. Join a global group to explore how you wish to illuminate your year ahead in 2017 - whether business, career, health, relationships, creativity - any or all of these, you will receive insights and support here. More details and booking link here.

We start on Saturday 7th January, and run through five full weeks together, closing our circle on Friday 10th February. Each Tuesday evening at 7.30 pm GMT there will be the opportunity to join a group check-in call to share our experiences. This will be recorded in case you are not able to join us, and for you to listen again if you do as there will be many rich seams to explore through this process.

Each week you will receive a new guided visualisation to help you access your own inner wisdom. We will use the prompts of the Dare to Blossom Rediscovery Cards and a daily practice each week through a closed Facebook group where we can gather as if in a room together and support each other.

I know that many readers of this newsletter do not wish to be involved with Facebook, if there is enough interest, I could, as before, set up an email group - and you would still of course be very welcome to join the live group calls each Tuesday. Please contact me if this appeals to you.

The Early Bird price is £25 so book now to reserve your place. After 7 December the price will be £30.

New book: "The Dare to Blossom Rediscovery Cards Companion Guide"

Regular readers here must have lost count of the number of times I have mentioned work on a book as a companion to the Dare to Blossom Rediscovery Cards. And maybe understandably wondering if I would ever actually write and publish this. Well, the news is that at last I have ceased dithering over it and taken the 'just do it' approach.

This means that the first proof copies I ordered are already out of date before they arrive, as I immediately thought of lots of additions to make and a better design for the cover. However, the second batch of proof copies have been ordered, with the inclusion of a foreword by Nick Williams, author of The Work We Were Born to Do (and 13 other titles). I don't remember when I read his first book, but know it was before I became a life coach myself. Nick's work and his way of being present so authentically in his writing and his videos (recently broadcasting live every day on Facebook) has been inspirational. So, when he agreed to write the piece I was delighted and honoured.

The books will be available to buy direct from me, either as a stand-alone, or in a package with the Dare to Blossom Rediscovery Cards. Later the book will be available from Amazon and other booksellers' sites, as well as from Lulu.com, the self-publishing service I use. Here is the link to my Lulu page there where the new book will be listed in due course and here is a low resolution mock-up of the cover:



Thank you to everyone who has encouraged me to keep going with writing this book, it has turned out nothing like I expected, and, in some contrary way, at the same time, just as I hoped. I know that makes little sense, along the way somewhere the original idea I had after my year of blogging about one card a week, has split into two books. This is the first, the simple companion. Written not to tell you how to interpret the cards, simply to provide a little structure, in the form of prompts and examples of other people's reactions - to help you develop your own individual way (or ways) of accessing your inner wisdom. I am so grateful to the members of the Facebook group who have given me permission to use their comments anonymously. Thank you once again if you are reading this.

Oh, and just in case you are wondering - I don't know what the second book will be about yet, or when it will emerge. Right now I want to get away from the computer and focus on some new art pieces for my stand at the Vibrant Living Show, and displays at the workshops. And there is seasonal celebration and time to rest at the turn of the year to prepare for as well.

Unusual gifts

As well as my currently available three books (soon to be four as you will have seen), you could also look at my original artwork, and the greetings cards featuring my designs and photographs. Another way to buy is via my page on Redbubble. Here you can choose a design to be made into a print, a greetings card, a tote bag, phone case - a whole range of products. This can be a good way to order, especially if you are based in the USA, as that is where Redbubble prints them. (So, if you are in UK, and order a big package, as I did, please be aware you may be charged customs duties, plus an administration charge.)

I have so many friends who make the most amazing and beautiful things, that I am hard-pressed to choose any to feature here, so here is a website that highlights a number of different small UK producers, it is called "Wow Thank You." And there is the Made in Cornwall site being set up too.

Inspirational Links

This month's featured blog is Barb Parcells with Flower Bear's Garden. In her piece she mentions a Youtube interview with Natalie Goldberg on the thirtieth anniversary of her book Writing Down the Bones,  one of my early inspirations. I am watching it now as I write - another mellow moment. I love what she has to say about art too,and her reflections and stories.

As always, please feel free to comment below with your thoughts and comments. 

If you would like to own a set of Dare to Blossom Rediscovery cards to explore their power for yourself please visit the dedicated page.

Thank you dear friends for visiting with me again this month and sharing my musings.

Until next time,

with love,
Mary

Find 'Dare to Blossom Life Coaching' on Facebook, @daretoblossom on Twitter

October 2016 - Allowing the flow

Welcome to the Dare to Blossom Newsletter

In this Issue:
Reflections: allowing the flow
Events: Winter Magic Carpet Ride Workshop: "Review, Reflect, Re-Vision"
Your coaching package
Inspirational links

Reflections: allowing the flow

Laughing at myself a little ruefully as I write this:it is now 4.30 p.m. on Monday. I intended today to be a writing day. I said to someone this morning that I would be working on the latest book, then I remembered that I needed to start work on this newsletter to send out to you on Friday. And then.... well, you know the story, with your own variations: shopping, doctor's appointment, going back to collect medication as the dispensary wasn't open, emails to deal with, accounts to update, a friend to contact. Not procrastination exactly, but a version of it. (You may have seen this TED talk before? Inside the mind of a master procrastinator by Tim Urban)

The title 'Allowing the flow' popped into my mind as I was setting up the outline for this month's missive to you. Now I come to write about it, I need to explore what I mean by that. Or do I? Maybe it doesn't matter what I mean, or anyone else, by those words, they are simply words. Today I have seen two pieces in my on-line meanderings - both inspiring and thought provoking: one from Nick Williams on resistance. (This is a link to a Facebook Live piece, I am not sure if it will be accessible to you, if not you will find Nick writes about this subject in his blog too).Then this afternoon Lucinda Drayton shared this piece on Surrenderfrom her blog last year.

Allowing the flow, feels - for me - to be about a balance, a tension even, between those two things: resistance, and surrender. There are many meanings of the word 'resistance' - and I was interested to see that it derives from the Latin verb meaning 'to hold back'. To surrender is to cease resisting. Whereas 'allow' comes from "the Latin allaudare to praise, reinforced by medieval Latin allocare to place." (all definitions and meanings from the Oxford English Dictionary).

All these words, and the experiences they describe can be valuable. For today, I return to exploring 'allowing the flow'. I am intrigued by those two Latin roots: 'to praise' and 'to place'. Add to those one of the definitions, of which there are several, of the verb 'to allow': "Give the necessary time or opportunity for." - and I feel a connection back to flow - to giving time or opportunity for this to happen. The addition of that word 'necessary' - highlights for me that maybe I am sometimes unrealistic, too hard on myself perhaps, when I expect myself to be able to simply step into the flow. Whether that be something like writing, creating art, meditating..... or anything else, maybe it is necessary to give permission, to give time, to give opportunity?

Another thought arose for me: that sometimes flow is just that, flow. It needn't be a means to an end. I mentioned writing and art - I have a habit with those, and maybe even with meditation, to judge myself harshly if I do not produce something to show for having been in the flow; for having taken that time, used that opportunity. Does 'allowing the flow' also include the possibility of simply being there, as well as, sometimes, doing?

An image comes to mind - that of a wave: in physical reality the water in the wave doesn't actually move forward, simply rotates in a circular motion, until the wave reaches shallow water and breaks (if you are interested in the science behind this have a look here). It is the energy that moves across the ocean, rather than the wave. If I was out in the ocean I could allow the waves to flow by. Unless my boat was powered by wind or an engine, or carried by ocean currents, I would just bob up and down as the waves passed underneath me. Whereas in a river - the water is moving downstream, following a path determined by gravity and influenced by the obstacles in its path.



Several days later......

Returning to this piece to finish writing to you, I felt what I had written might not make sense, and not 'flow' at all. As I re-read my efforts to get to grips with the concept of 'allowing the flow', I saw that I was writing about precisely that: the allowing. And all the things that may get in the way of simply 'allowing'. The resistance. The temptation to surrender in a potentially negative way, that way of saying 'Oh, I give up!' when something is not going how I think it should.

And... I didn't give up, I went away for a while. I spent a wonderful afternoon with a dear friend visiting the Japanese Garden at St Mawgan. It was a dull misty afternoon, there were very few people in the garden, in fact for much of the time I think we had the whole place to ourselves. It was too early in the autumn for the dramatic colours, and too late for the blossoms - so we could really appreciate all the shades of green, the textures and shapes of the trees and their foliage. And the mosses, grasses, bamboo, rocks, sculptures......



I felt myself dropping down into peace, into stillness. Away, in fact, from any sense of flow. Simply being in the stillness of nature. A stillness that was not static - the wind was blowing at different places in the garden, the leaves rustling, the grasses moving. While we were standing looking at this view across the pool, the wind started playing the most deeply moving song on the wind chimes, as Sharon said, the effect was as powerful as that of a gong bath.



And we sat here by the raked gravel garden for a while, on either side of a beautiful wooden buddha. So many memories here for me as I visit regularly with different people. Some of those memories go back to sitting in these quiet spaces with my mother a number of years ago now.



This dropping down, into the peace within, seems for me to circle back around to 'allowing the flow'. It feels to me, now, to be connected with the circular flow of life - not only outside myself and my body, but within. My blood circulating through my veins and arteries, through my heart and lungs, keeping me alive; my breath flowing in and out, in and out.

The final photograph to share from the garden is this one: and I did not realise the true message for me until I saw it on the computer after downloading from my camera. Somehow the light gives the effect, the impression, the feeling that the koi carp could be swimming overhead, in the sky.



The sensation of dropping down, going within, is now - for me - opened up, turned around. 'Within' is linked to 'without' - not in the sense of lack, but rather the external. Interior space connected to the greater universe around: the place where down can be up; up can be down. So, I am now feeling I need to finish this piece, and not knowing really where to finish. My earlier anxieties, resistance, surrender, definitions, discussion have all led me here to this place of allowing, allowing the flow of life. Moving through life as I moved through the gardens, and at the same time being still within.

As a final thought, it was even later that I noticed the single tiny golden leaf floating on the surface of the water, showing that this was in fact water and not the sky, and for me, providing a subtle link back to last month's reflections on 'reap your harvest' and my thoughts of the golden nuggets I have collected throughout the years.

For you, for your journal or meditation practice:
- what does 'allowing the flow' mean to you? Maybe flow write or meditate on those words
- what emerges for you?
- what gifts can you find within?
- do you wish to paint, draw, collage - express this visually in some way?

Your coaching package

My new package of flexible monthly support is now available. Two coaching conversations a month: choose one hour or 30 minute slots. You can book and pay for one month at a time to ensure you have the ability to adjust to time and budget, and at the same time arrange the continuity of commitment to your own growth and development.

For full details visit the website here.If you would like to talk before booking: to ask any questions you may have, and to check out how I work and if it feels right for you - with no obligation to buy - simply contact me to book your initial (free) consultation.

Events: Winter Magic Carpet Ride Workshop: "Review, Reflect, Re-Vision"

This will be confirmed very soon, once I have visited our new venue on Monday and confirmed the booking, and then full details will be on my website and Facebook pages, here is a date for your diary:

Date: Saturday 19th November
Time: arrive from 9.30 am, 10.00 am start, 1.00 pm finish.
Venue: The Blue Lotus Therapy Centre, Scorrier, Redruth, Cornwall (NB still to be confirmed)
Price: £25.00 per person (book via the website or contact me direct by replying to this email)

Spend some time with a group of like-minded people to look back over your year so far; to review and reflect; and then to look forward into 2017. Full details will be provided on the workshop page and through a Facebook event page next week.

Dare to Blossom at Home workshops can be booked at any time: if you are in Cornwall or west Devon and are interested in exploring the option to host a group of friends in your own home, have a look at the website here and contact me so we can arrange a chat to discuss what you would like.

Inspirational Links

This month I am sharing the websites of two dear friends. Each of them I met through a series of synchronicities and mutual connections.

Sharon Whittock is a image consultant and fashion feng shui advisor (don't you just love that idea? I do!). Here is her beautiful website, do take time to browse and read about her story and all she has to offer.

And here is Mary McConnell, a massage therapist, reiki healer, and health coach. She also has a blog here.

As always, please feel free to comment below with your thoughts and comments. 

If you would like to own a set of Dare to Blossom Rediscovery cards to explore their power for yourself please visit the dedicated page.

Thank you dear friends for visiting with me again this month and sharing my musings.

Until next time,

with love,
Mary

Find 'Dare to Blossom Life Coaching' on Facebook, @daretoblossom on Twitter

September 2016 - Reap your harvest

In this Issue: 
Reflections: Reap your harvest
Guest article: "Meeting with Mary"
Events and offers: reminder that Early Bird offers end on 31 August
Inspirational links

Reflections: Reap your harvest

Here in Cornwall, this is the time of harvest. In the fields around my home, the combine harvesters are working, bringing in the crops to store for winter animal feed, or to send off for use elsewhere. In the hedgerows, there are blackberries, hips and haws. Seeds of all descriptions. Here in my garden, we have an abundance of produce: tomatoes, cucumbers, courgettes (some becoming marrows before we have time to eat them), runner beans, apples ripening on the trees.



Reviewing my year, I am looking at what is ripening from all the seeds I have sown, the delicate green shoots tended, in some cases sacrificed by 'thinning out' - letting go of some ideas to focus on other, stronger, ones. Planning the Autumn Magic Carpet Ride Workshops here in Cornwall - the theme this autumn is 'Reap your harvest'. As I reflected, I wrote about how, throughout the year, we have each been planting seeds of ideas and projects, nurturing them into fruition.... and then, and then usually rushing on to the next thing. Without pausing - pausing to review, maybe simply to admire, the results, the 'fruits of our labours.' More about the workshop is to be found below.

Writing in my journal, exploring how I want to re-write some parts of website to become even more authentically me, I started thinking about 'reaping the harvest of my years'. I see an image of a woman winnowing: shaking the sieve so the grain falls safely into a large bowl and the chaff blows away in the wind. (I have just started a Pinterest board 'Harvesting my years' to give life to this image, and to collect others that feel relevant.

Then going back to the idea of rewriting my story, I found myself getting lost, my thoughts ran around inside my head, something like this: "Let go of my story." "What is left?" "You are not your story." "Rewrite the script."

and yet......
and yet..... the past was the present once, circle back, see it again, see it from another perspective, see afresh.

Here I wrote a list of many of my experiences, looking at them, winnowing them, or panning for the gold in them - another metaphor suggested by a friend and fellow coach.

What are the nuggets, what are the golden grains I want to harvest? And which are the ones to share with you when you read my writing - here, or on my website as a new visitor?

Which are the ones that will call to your heart and suggest you connect with me? Connect for a conversation, a coaching programme, a card reading, a workshop, or as a friend - whatever that connection prompts. And that connection may be nothing other than reading my words wherever you have found them.

Some of my golden grains - so far (I am still winnowing) -  are:
- that quiet people matter, have value
- re-living past experiences takes me nowhere
- re-viewing past experiences can be a valuable source of insights, stepping stones to avoid stepping in the murky, sticky mud of re-living again, and pass over to the future.

I wrote these questions for myself, and maybe for you:
"What is behind, beneath, deeper? What is above, beyond, higher? What, who, can you be when you dare to expand in all directions?"

(If you choose to do so, you could use this process, and those questions for your own reflections.)

From all this is evolving a new coaching offer, some fresh ways of presenting what I do, and a new 'my story' website page that goes deeper into who I really am - well, that is to say, who I am today, and how I see that. Tomorrow I - and you - may be, will be, different again. That, that is the joy of daring to blossom.

Guest article: "Meeting with Mary"

Last month I wrote about meeting up with friends made on-line, one of whom was Rosemary from Australia. She has written the piece below to recount her side of the story.  

Contributed by Rosemary, who describes herself as "in tune follower from down-under & sometime magic carpet flyer..":

"Some four or five years ago, a net savvy constant researching friend forwarded me an e-copy of “Dare to Blossom”, Mary’s newly born newsletter.  Not only did the title catch me; I wanted to blossom.  As a person who had struggled with living and with depression over half a lifetime I managed at times to go with the flow and find ways to blossom with joy and achievement, only at times.  What I loved about Mary’s musings was the fact that frequently she was writing about the very thing I was grappling with i.e. Change. (in fact in midst of writing this I was also sorting some papers and came across Mary’s Dare to Blossom August 2011 when she wrote on Authentic Voices; so helpful to reread!) So I began to respond to Mary, thanking her for her writings, for illuminating my own thoughts, or adding my own to hers, for raising difficult subjects and of course complimenting for her beautiful photographs.

With a trip to the southern part of the UK planned for earlier this year I began to contemplate the possibility of meeting up with Mary thinking of the challenges of timing. I mooted the idea not long before I left Australia on 14 June 2016.   Much to my amazement we were able to connect quite simply and smoothly.  Fortunately Mary had started adding her picture to the newsletter so I had a real person to look for in a beautiful town called Padstow (often referred to as Padstein by locals due to the restaurants delis and stores bearing Rick Steins name) not far from Mary’s home village.

Much to my delight we met on Friday 15 July in Greens café high above the main part of town and with gorgeous expansive views over the harbor and across to huge sandy estuary to the hills beyond and the little town of Rock reachable by ferry across the river.  We took Marie Antoinette’s idea and “ate cake” as we tentatively reached out to each other. Mary then took me on a charming walk firstly above the harbor to the  common with its newly planted wildflowers and then around the narrow streets of Padstow telling me about goings on in the town such as the German TV series being made at the towns mansion, pointing out some of her favourite things and places.

Passing a very old cottage that was being renovated, I barged my way in dragging Mary with me to find a very friendly specialist builder happy to tell us of his extraordinarily detailed work.  As I love houses & architecture and history this was a real bonus.  In our walk and talk I discovered Mary has an extraordinary background herself and someday she may share with you the marvelous things she has done and the life she shares."



Thank you for this Rosemary, and for being such a constant supporter for me. I have included the only photo I have of the two of us in Padstow, (even though I have my eyes closed!) - it is a beautiful reminder of the time we spent together that day.

Events and offers: reminder that Early Bird offers end on 31 August

As regular readers will know, I have been offering you special rates on a 'Summer Special' coaching package, and Early Bird prices for my autumn workshops in Cornwall.

These end on 31st August, so you may like to pop over to the website to check in with your own feelings about these again and to see if one or the other is calling to you now, even if that did not happen earlier. I suggest this as I know I sometimes have the experience of needing to revisit something several times before making a decision.

Once you book the coaching package there is then no hurry to take up your four sessions, though having said that - why not get cracking with them while 'the iron is hot'? And, for the workshops - if you do not yet know if you will be free, and in Cornwall, on 10th September for Camelford, or 24th September for Hayle, but would like to be able to take advantage of the offer if you are - just contact me and we can discuss what will work for you.

And this applies to any of my offerings - if you feel a connection but can't see how it will work for you financially, please do book your free Skype or phone consultation anyway. There is absolutely no obligation to continue any further, and often a solution can be found that will work for both of us - and we will have enjoyed a delicious conversation in the process, whatever the outcome.

Here are the links again:
Summer Special Coaching Package
Autumn Magic Carpet Ride Workshops: Reap your harvest

For those of you who choose to avoid Facebook, and for ease of access for anyone, I have, I thought, edited the sidebar of this newsletter to include links to my Soundcloud and YouTube channels. However, for some reason I cannot see those links in the preview here - so we will all see if they appear once this is published. In case they do not, you will find them below.

People tell me it helps to hear my voice before taking that step of picking up the phone, or connecting on Skype for a conversation. A coaching client some years ago, on making the first contact by phone, literally sighed, relaxing, and said how she immediately knew when we spoke that she wanted to work with me, that it was right for her.

On Soundcloud there are currently two pieces, an introduction to life coaching, and a sample 'magic carpet ride' guided visualisation. These are both also accessible through the Welcome Page on my website. On YouTube I have one short video demonstrating how the Dare to Blossom Rediscovery Cards can be used during a life coaching session (there are some other pieces on Facebook too). I am very new to seeing myself on video so I am sure I will become more practised over time.

Finally, don't forget that you can host a tailored workshop for you and your friends in your own home by contacting me to discuss a Dare to Blossom at Home event. For practical reasons these have to be mostly in Cornwall or Devon - but I am always open to suggestions to visit other areas too.

Inspirational Links

I have so many friends writing amazing inspirational blogs that I have decided to feature one of them here each month:

Here is Sandi Davis from Luscious Life with a piece on "Thresholds". Sandi also has a beautiful offering at the moment: Oracle Alchemy

As always, please feel free to comment below.

If you would like to own a set of Dare to Blossom Rediscovery cards to explore their power for yourself please visit the dedicated page.

Thank you dear friends for visiting with me again this month and sharing my musings.