Wednesday, 29 April 2020

May 2020: Curiosity


Reflections: Curiosity
Book News: "Your Compass Rose Speaks – how to hear the voice of your inner guidance."

Events and ways to Dare to Blossom

Reflections: Curiosity

How are you? That question changes, doesn't it, once we are catapulted into this strange new situation. Now it feels as if we are all unsure of how we are day to day. Excuse me for presuming to speak for you, for all of us, I will return to my usual practice of simply writing from my own feelings. Yet there is a universal quality to the experience we are sharing right now. Even as we all respond differently, from day to day we are united in various ways.

The reason I asked "How are you?" is from concern for each of you who take the time to read this, time to connect. I also ask from a place of curiosity. Curiosity about those similarities we may find, and about the differences. One aspect I have noticed, and I find uncomfortable, is how judgemental I can become - of others, and of myself. Kindness is a good antidote to this, enabling me to soften those attitudes, those harsh judgements.

And so is curiosity. I wonder why I am feeling this way? I wonder why they are behaving like that? I watched a beautiful
interview with Elizabeth Gilbert recently on coping with these times. One part that really struck me was when she spoke about 'passion' and about 'purpose', as being too challenging in this situation. As you know if you connect with my work or read these newsletters regularly, those words feature in one of the key components of my process now, The Compass Rose, along with power, progress and peace.



For me, I find that the way I see the Compass Rose, with each of those words rooted into the centre, Peace, where they, and we, are grounded and balanced - that both softens the challenge, and supports me in facing it. Elizabeth spoke about how she prefers to  explore 'curiosity', and this set me on this inquiry, this exploration today, as I sit in the spring sunshine in my garden.

How about if I bring curiosity into my own process, for myself, and with others? For me, there is an immediate sense of lightness, of release. "I wonder..." is a perfect starting point. It helps me quieten that judgemental voice within. It also brings a sense of possibility, of the magical. "What if...?"

Right now these questions are leading me to ask myself: I wonder how to celebrate the fifth anniversary of my very first online Midsummer Magic Carpet Ride Circle. What if I offer a special programme? And, what if we use curiosity to explore the Compass Rose? That was where I left my journal that day in the garden, sitting in the sunshine. More on that later in this newsletter.



Recently, curiosity led me to discover a new walk, new to me I mean. Quite close to my home. I have begun this walk from a different starting point before, one that involves a short drive, this time, after looking at the map, I found how to enter it in a different place and discovered this magical path, leading down to a stream in the valley, beside a house that used to be a mill at one time.

Then along the valley bottom, beside the little stream, up and over several styles to cross the field hedges, and into another patch of woodland, with steep slopes as the path led me back uphill a little, high above the stream. The woodland is ancient: willow, oak, sycamore, without the majestic tall beech trees I so love to see in my usual 'bluebell walks' each year in the woods near Respryn Bridge. Yet this was so precious, so close to home, something I had overlooked, forgotten about, for many years.

As I returned on my walk, up the hill, just past the mill I noticed this, nestled in the vegetation. I walked right past the first time - probably as I met a young woman there carrying a baby strapped on her front, so we had a short conversation, across a several metre distance.



Isn't it just magical? Someone took the trouble to find, or cut a round of wood, and to paint that beautiful representation of the stream winding down to the sea in the distance. (Historically there were a number of watermills down this valley, all making use of the water power). Then they placed it here to delight and intrigue passers-by like me.
For you, suggestions for your journal reflections or meditations:
  • What are you curious about right now? Maybe write a list.
  • Flow write about one of the 'curiosities' on your list.
  • Read it back, underline any words that stand out to you, and choose one of those for another flow writing exercise (you can set a timer for these if you wish)
  • Repeat for as long as you feel like playing.
Book News: "Your Compass Rose Speaks – how to hear the voice of your inner guidance."

Many of you may know that I have been thinking about this book, and working on it intermittently, for such a long time. Thinking back, I remember originally planning that it would be published for my birthday one year - I think that might even have been for my 65th which would have been in 2017.

So much has happened since then. Today I was reminded that it is two years since I attended a workshop in London with my friend Anna, run by Stewart Pearce. He wrote The Alchemy of Voice, a book I had read years earlier. My meditation poem Compass Rose Speaks grew out of his request for each of us to memorise a piece to be used during the workshop - I decided to write my own. I enjoyed the event and learned a lot, and yet the biggest gift of all has been that piece that has now become an integral part of the way I work - with others, and for myself.

Recently Womancraft Publishing brought forward a submission date for manuscripts and I was inspired to return to writing this book, which I had set aside last autumn before my trip to New Zealand, knowing somehow that patience was needed for other parts to slot into place before it could be completed. On my return, as you may know, I was inspired to publish the memoir part as a separate book The Powerful Voice of the Quiet Ones. So, seeing Lucy's request for submissions made me sit down and work on the draft very quickly and submit it to her.

I know she had many more submissions that she can publish, including two follow-ups from authors whose work she has already published (and I will be eagerly awaiting those) - so I was not surprised, even if a little disappointed, to receive a 'rejection letter' - a beautifully worded email. I am so grateful for the push this process has given me, and to Lucy for taking my work seriously enough to read it.

I will be returning to complete and self-publish that book very soon, and once it is approaching readiness I will open pre-orders as I did for the last book - I am so grateful to everyone, including many of you reading this, who were generous enough to trust me with your money in advance.

The book will take the reader through the  ‘Compass Rose Coaching’ practice that I have developed over a number of years. There are a series of ‘Steps’ with some reflections and suggestions from me on each. I am doing my best to draw a picture in words of what I see as a multi-dimensional experience, describing the landscape of the garden that we visit in the guided part of the visualisation in the live groups I run. There is a Travellers' Tales Circle - a chapter where you can drop in and read the stories of magic carpet rides experienced by people over the time I have been leading this practice. If any of you would like to share your own stories in that chapter I would be delighted to receive them, they can be published anonymously, or with your details and business links.
Events and ways to Dare to Blossom
I seem to have planned so much for May - something that often happens in this, my very favourite month of the year. Here in Cornwall everything is exuberantly bursting into blossom and leaf, with colour and greenery everywhere. My enthusiasm does the same.

In case all this seems hard to follow, here is a brief summary:
Three one-off Zoom Circles, all times UK:
Friday 1st May at 10.00 am
Saturday 9th May at 10.00 am
Monday 18th May at 7.30 pm.
The last is an introduction to the new programme that begins on Monday 25th May at 7.30 pm and runs for six weeks.More details on each of these is below. You are most welcome to come to one or all.


A May Day Magic Carpet Ride Usually May Day in Padstow, just a few miles from my home is a time of music, dance, drums, accordions, and lots of jollity - and crowds. Naturally it has been cancelled this year as these sort of gatherings are not allowed. Here is a taste of last year for you, that is the Red 'Oss, so for fairness here is one of the Blue 'Oss too (the recording of the singing is more clear in this one).  Here is a link to a Pathe News film from way back in 1932. I imagine there may still be some music in Padstow this year, I wonder if the people will sing from their windows as they do in Italy?

I have decided to offer a circle to celebrate the first day of May, this is a free event, with donations welcome if you find it valuable and are in a position to offer anything - and simply for fun. We will meet on Zoom at 10.00 am on Friday 1st May, and I expect the Circle with last for between one and one and a half hours. If you are on Facebook, you can book your place on the event page here. I know many of you who read this newsletter don't bother with social media so simply contact me, and I will send you the Zoom link.


Workshops The next Dare to Blossom Workshop planned at the Blue Lotus at Scorrier will probably be a virtual gathering on Zoom videoconferencing, as was the March event. It is scheduled for Saturday 9th May, and will be on the theme of "Passion: East, Potential Rising". The details are here, and you can book there, and pay by donation, or you can book a place by replying to this email, and decide on that amount after the event (and pay via direct transfer instead of PayPal if you prefer).
 

Curiosity & Celebration: A Midsummer Magic Carpet Ride




Following on the theme of 'curiosity' and a celebration of five years of Magic Carpet Rides. We begin on Monday 18th May, with a free taster Circle, and then meet for six weeks from 25th May. More details here, with booking opening soon.


The special spring offer on the Compass Rose Coaching Programme is still available. Six sessions, of either one hour or thirty minutes, on Zoom, at half price. Even if this feels out of reach just now, please do request a 'complimentary consultation' - also known as a chat on Zoom over a cuppa to get to know each other a little better.
 
Thank you dear friends for visiting with me again this month and sharing my musings.

Until next time,

with love,
Mary

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Tuesday, 31 March 2020

April 2020: Waiting

Reflections: Waiting

Grounding Meditation: Compass Rose Speaks
Events and ways to Dare to Blossom


Reflections: Waiting

Waiting, waiting, the whole world feels in limbo just now, suspended.... I notice that in the February and March newsletters I wrote about change. None of us knew then just how much would shift and change over these few weeks, here in the UK anyway, and I imagine, for you too wherever you are in the world.

I feel two strange sensations: dizzy, as if my head is spinning from the news each day, and the new restrictions and rules that keep coming in. And, in limbo. Suspended. I see one of those slow motion images (that I personally find a little irritating when over-used) - of someone walking or running very, very slowly.

Waiting, waiting. Here in England we are into our second week of only being allowed out for essential purposes. One of those is exercise, but I am not allowed to drive to the cliffs where I love to walk. I have to start from my door and walk along the farm track, and maybe out onto the lanes. A lovely walk, even if with a different feel to being on the cliffs, and maybe I will when the weather is warmer and the biting cold north-easterly wind has changed direction. I am lucky to have lots of sheltered spots in the garden, so we have been able to sit in the sun with a cuppa several times over the last week.

I have been watching as this rhododendron, which hasn't flowered for several years, gradually opens. I have just reminded myself to go and visit it in a moment.



How about you? How is this situation affecting you? Is it a relief to slow down? Are you finding support from neighbours who you are getting to know for the first time? Are you one of the 'key workers' doing so much to keep us all safe,and well and supplied with food and necessities? Are you worried about your job, about paying the bills? Are you adapting to working from home? Maybe while home-schooling your children for the first time? Probably several of those things are present in your life just now.

Many people have suggested that this could be the time to catch up with everything we mean to do at home, but rarely get around to doing. Others that it is just too much to think about when the situation is so difficult. I veer between those, and I mostly simply feel exhausted by it all. And that is hardly surprising - we are all in shock, and in a stress response. For most of us we cannot take the 'fight' option, nor the 'flight' one, so we may simply 'freeze'. Freeze in terror, in anticipation of the worst happening, in confusion.

For me, now that the new rules here are clear, and we are just beginning to settle into a new routine, I feel as if I am, very gradually, beginning to 'unfreeze'. To notice that I had almost been holding my breath. Wishing that I would wake up and the nightmare would be over. The only other times I have felt remotely this way have been in times of personal crisis - when I had received a cancer diagnosis, or when my mother had a severe stroke. This is different: we are all affected, we are all in this together. People have been comparing it to war time, that is another quite different situation, yet the community feeling is a true gift.

This painting is titled 'My Lop-sided Heart' and reflects a little of how my heart feels right now: very tender, a little bruised, and full of love for all those around me, for nature, for the wonderful support that so many people are offering to those in need just now.



With normal life seemingly on pause, whilst we wait for it to resume - I have been reflecting on what I would like 'normal life' to be. Maybe this global wake-up call will bring different ways of living? Sometimes I feel as if Mother Earth is breathing a huge sigh of relief. The skies are clearer over Cornwall with no convection trails from jets passing overhead. The birds are singing - probably as they always do at this time of year, yet I have more time to appreciate their song. My work has slowed down too, even though most of what I do takes place online, people are naturally not spending money just now when their own income is precarious.

I already knew that I will be developing different programmes for this year, arising from 'The Powerful Voice of the Quiet Ones'. I also have the opportunity to return to writing the bigger book, The working title is currently 'Your Compass Rose Speaks - Rediscover your inner guidance.' Even though the painting below is abstract and in no way represents a compass, or a rose, I think it may appear on the cover. In any case, I thought I would share it with you here as I love the fresh, spring-like energy of it. I called it 'Green Sprite'.

(Both these paintings are now residing in new homes, if you click on them you can browse my current selection.)




For you, suggestions for your journal reflections or meditations:
  • It may be too soon just yet, but gently allow the question to arise: "What are the gifts of the current situation for you?"
  • Flow-write your responses, you may find they begin with anger, despair, frustration, fear. Let that all flow through, all those reactions are completely natural and understandable. 
  • Visual a river flowing past you as you sit on the bank. Let any feelings you would like to let go of drip into the river and be swept away
  • Return to the question "What are the gifts of the current situation for you?"
Grounding Meditation: Compass Rose Speaks

People tell me they are finding this meditation helpful. I know I use it frequently for myself, to ground and to centre into my heart, into peace. If you click on the image or the title you will be taken to my web page where there is a link to a recording of the words as well as the text below.



'Compass Rose Speaks'
I am your Compass Rose. My centre point is Peace. Balancing, grounding.
Look up! Look North, to your Guiding Star. Your Purpose.
From the East comes the rising sun. Passion, potential.
South is the source of nature's powers. The flowing rivers, the rising tides, the ever-changing oceans. The wind that shapes the land. The power that is arising in you.
West is the land of the setting sun. Progressing forwards into the night. Anticipating the promise of a new day. Return your attention to your centre point, Peace. Balanced, grounded.
I am your Compass Rose. 
© Mary Lunnen 2018
The words are the voice of your guidance system, your inner wisdom. I speak this piece in every online Dare to Blossom Group, in every coaching one to one, at every workshop.
Events and ways to Dare to Blossom

Workshops The next Dare to Blossom Workshop planned at the Blue Lotus at Scorrier will probably be a virtual gathering on Zoom videoconferencing, as was the March event. It is scheduled for Saturday 9th May, and will be on the theme of "Passion: East, Potential Rising". The details are here, and to provisionally book a place to join me online on 9th May, please contact me, or simply reply to this email, so I can send you more details once the situation is clear.

The special spring offer on the Compass Rose Coaching Programme has been extended. Six sessions, of either one hour or thirty minutes, on Zoom, at half price. Even if this feels out of reach just now, please do request a 'complimentary consultation' - also known as a chat on Zoom over a cuppa to get to know each other a little better.

The new 'Powerful Voice' coaching group programme is still emerging, I will share more details when they are ready. In the meantime, and if you are happy to connect on Facebook, I post daily on my timeline and have two groups, Dare to Blossom into Joy - where I share a daily Rediscovery card; and The Powerful Voice of the Quiet Ones, where I am sharing readings from the book.

 
Thank you dear friends for visiting with me again this month and sharing my musings.

Until next time,

with love,

Friday, 28 February 2020

March 2020: The Winds of Change

Reflections 1: The Winds of Change

Reflections 2: "Your Powerful Voice" Online Programme, plus "Percolating and Germinating"

Events and ways to Dare to Blossom

Reflections: The Winds of Change

March is not yet here, yet the wild winds are blowing in that tempestuous way that often welcomes in this month - one of growth and green shoots here in Cornwall. Last month I also wrote about change, and so much seems to have happened since then. As I wrote recently on my website (read more here), I found myself needing to 'live the questions' as I made the decision to cancel what has been my regular group programme throughout the year, and leave space for the new work that is emerging following the publication of The Powerful Voice of the Quiet Ones. To let that go before the new shoots were able to emerge for something fresh.

All the advance orders have now been dispatched and new orders are trickling in. At the same time, it is becoming clear to me that publishing the book, as well as clearing the way for the Compass Rose Speaks book to be finished, is the beginning of my work with 'The Powerful Voice' not the end. More on that below.

If you are in the southern hemisphere, you may be coming into autumn, harvest time, Another time of equinoctial winds, even with a different feeling. Here in Cornwall we are having a normal sort of early spring, with lots of gales and rain and the occasional sunny, but colder, day.

I know that I often resist change. I can be comfortable in a routine, with knowing how things will flow, with plans for many months ahead. I enjoy feeling that security, a sense of control - which is of course often a false one. My life has often been turned upside down by unexpected events. Sometimes difficult ones, sometimes joyful surprises. Over the years I have become a little more accustomed to coping with changes. Often it feels as if these are blown in by a gale of wind.

Recently the real life gales have been so strong, and have brought so much rain along with them, that I have hardly been out walking. I love the wind on the cliffs, when it is strong but not so violent that I feel unsafe. It is exhilarating and enlivening. Last time I visited my favourite spot I found a big change that meant I was unable to walk there and visit the fulmars. (I wrote about them last month too.) Here is a photo from another recent visit, of the cliffs next to the rock arch that is known as Porthmissen Bridge. The ledges are where the fulmars nest, along with kittiwakes and gulls, jackdaws and pigeons.



Writing this now, I realise how unsettled I feel about that change, how much it has rocked my happy routine. The farmer has filled in all the parking places with huge piles of earth - absolutely his right to do that, he owns the land. I don't know the reason, but I can imagine he may be tired of people abusing the privilege of free parking - often people stay in their camper vans there for days, even weeks, at a time.

That day, when I first found I couldn't park, I went to another favourite place, which would have been a much longer walk down the valley to the cliff edge. I put on my boots, my coat and scarf, hat and gloves, and set off. I soon found that the wind was funneling up the valley, so strongly that I could hardly stand. I turned round and went back to my car. It was only when I got back there that I realised it was also raining - the wind had been so strong that it had been flying across horizontally and I hadn't noticed.
An interesting experience, I will need to explore and find new places to go, as well as taking a longer route to reach the places where the fulmars fly. That may mean going for fewer, but longer walks. Now I am taking time to reflect, I can see a potential there, and a sense of curiosity - what new discoveries await?.

This example of a change feels quite a small, insignificant one, yet as I write those words I know that isn't so - this is quite a big change for me. I also know that I have adapted to so many changes throughout my life. I will choose to lean into the wind and enjoy the energy as I await the emergence of the new.


For you, suggestions for your journal reflections or meditations:
  • What are the winds of change blowing away for you right now?
  • What are they bringing your way, towards you?
  • How will you choose to respond?
  • What new discoveries will you explore?

Reflections 2: "Your Powerful Voice" Online Programme, plus "Percolating and Germinating"

I know that a new programme is about to emerge from this work, the book is simply the beginning. When I began writing this newsletter for you, I imagined having a full programme planned and ready to announce here, with dates and times for a weekly Zoom circle.

However, I have realised that I need some time: some time to rest, time to enjoy the progress of the book out around the world. I have been receiving messages back from people, sometimes with photos of their books. Soon, I hope that reviews will be shared too. I have been delaying a 'launch party' until the book is listed on Amazon, but it seems to be a slow process: it is there now, but states it is 'unavailable' - so am following that up with Lulu.com. (Here is the link where you can buy the book from them if that is easier than ordering a signed copy from me, and it may save on shipping costs if you are outside the UK. You can also leave reviews there.)

Here is a photo of the copy that has arrived in Ontario, Canada - through snow that has been unusually severe even for that part of the world (the press are calling it 'Snowmageddon'!)



(Photo with thanks to Gail Johnson Morris)

So, with all that is going on, it feels important to take that time, and to allow the new programme to emerge in its own time. You may well receive one of my occasional 'special bulletins' with news in due course, or maybe it will be in the April newsletter.

In one of the Zoom calls this week where people joined me to give support and feedback, these two words came up 'Percolate' and 'Germinate'. I love the thoughts that emerged as we discussed these words: Percolate, as well as a way of preparing coffee, also has the more general meaning of "filter gradually through a porous surface or substance." For me, that feels like letting go, letting things wash over me, letting the porous substance absorb whatever needs to be let go of, to allow it to be used as fertiliser to enrichen the soil.



I have chosen these two images as they seem to illustrate, first the 'percolating', and then the 'germinating processes. The first I drew a number of years ago, after a coaching call with Amy Palko. It was on a different theme, yet today, looking for ideas to illustrate these thoughts, it feels good. The new growth is using the wall as a support, rather than it being a barrier. Maybe the wall also helps with the 'percolation' process?

The second photo was taken on one of my annual bluebell walks in the woods near Lanhydrock House, I loved the new shoots sheltering at the base of the beech tree. Allowing them to germinate in the rich leaf mould that collects there.



For me as well, in the rich 'soil' of reflections, through which has 'percolated' the experiences of my every day life, new ideas, new seedlings can germinate. Again I turn to the dictionary for definitions: "Germinate: begin to grow and put out shoots after a period of dormancy." And: "come into existence and develop."

For some time now, people have been asking if I have thought of running a writers' group. Ideas are germinating for me - maybe a group where we will explore "Percolate and Germinate", before going more fully into the Powerful Voice work.  Or maybe two separate but complementary spaces? "Percolate and Germinate" to do just that - nurture the tender shoots of new ideas, whether in writing, art, music, business, or any other area of our lives. "The Powerful Voice'"when we are ready to step out, step up into our gentle power?

I will reflect some more on this and feel into how it could work. If you have any thoughts, reflections or suggestions, please do get in touch, simply reply to this email.


Events and ways to Dare to Blossom

Joanne's Healing Within TV Show I am very excited to be appearing live on Joanne’s (Jab Barry) TV show this Sunday, 1st March. The time is 8 pm in the UK, 3 pm EST, please do tune in to support me if you are free at that time.
You can watch on Facebook on the link above (I think a recording will be available there too), or if you are a subscriber to Roku on demand at Strong Island Entertainment.

Cornwall Workshops: The next event of 2020 is on Saturday 14th March, from 10 am to 1 pm, at the Blue Lotus Therapy Centre as usual. This time we will be looking North - to your Guiding Star, your Purpose. This month I have reduced the price from £33 to £22.


The special spring offer on the Compass Rose Coaching Programme has just two places not yet taken. Six sessions, of either one hour or thirty minutes, on Zoom, at half price - if this feels of interest to you, have a look before they go.

Dare to Blossom at Home:
if you would like to host a workshop for you and your guests in your home, have a look at the link and contact me for a chat if you would discuss how it might work for you. I normally keep this to Cornwall and West Devon, but I can always consider other invitations.
 
Thank you dear friends for visiting with me again this month and sharing my musings.

Until next time,

with love,
Mary

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'Dare to Blossom Life Coaching' on Facebook, @daretoblossom on Twitter

Friday, 31 January 2020

February 2020: Clearing and Changes

Welcome to the Dare to Blossom Newsletter 


Early Bird offer ending 1st February  for the 'Spring - Emerging' coaching circle
Reflections: Clearing and Changes

Events and ways to Dare to Blossom


Early Bird offer ending 1st February  for the 'Spring - Emerging' coaching circle

Welcome, I wanted to highlight this before you dive into the rest of this newsletter, if you do, as the Early Bird offer officially ends on 1st February. However, for you, my wonderful subscribers, I am happy to keep it open, contact me for more details.

Is it feeling like a time to explore what is emerging for you? The Spring Circle - Emerging begins on 17th February. We will meet together for six weeks in a private Facebook group and in weekly live group circles on Zoom. Currently there are two possible meeting times: 7.30 pm UK time on Thursday each week, or 10.00 am on Friday. Once the group gathers we can discuss which time time would suit those present best.

Each week we will explore a new part of the Compass Rose, beginning in the centre point, in Peace, then progressing around the compass points - Purpose, Passion, Power and Progress, before returning to Peace.


The full details are here, and simply reply to this email if you would like to ask any questions or arrange to chat.


The Early Bird rate is £120 for the six weeks and recordings of all the Circle calls, £220 after the 1st February (but contact me to request a place at the lower rate if you are a subscriber.) I can also arrange for you to pay by instalments if that suits you best.

At present, there are three Circles planned for 2020: as you may guess, following Spring comes Summer - Blossoming, and Autumn - Harvesting. There may be a Winter Circle too if people would like to continue - that will evolve as time passes. You can join one or all, however it works for you.


Reflections: Clearing and Changes
February truly feels like the start of a new year for me, New life is beginning to emerge: snowdrops are already in flower, daffodils have put up their leaves and will very soon be brightening the day with the cheerful yellow of their trumpets. The photo above was taken a year or so back, of the miniature daffodils in the pots outside my office door. I am looking forward to when they flower again.

My 'spring cleaning', the electronic version anyway, has taken an abrupt and unwelcome turn due to the failure of the hard drive in my laptop. Thank goodness my files have been recovered, including the book manuscript. All my emails were lost though - so if anyone reading this prefers to be in touch that way, please reply to this so I have your address again. (Of course I have it here, but your permission to use it is only for the purposes of sending out this newsletter).

So, that has been a big 'clearing' of one sort for me. Some decluttering of the physical sort is long overdue, although I will await some warmer weather for that, just now I feel more like snuggling up while the gales blow the hail showers past outside my windows.


And what about the 'Changes' in the title of these reflections? Alongside the writing for the new book, "The Powerful Voice of the Quiet Ones", which has been unavoidably delayed by the computer issues, there are changes wanting to emerge in the way I work. I am not yet clear on what those might be. As someone who has only recently been able to give up my tendency to try and be 'general manager of the universe' (in other words, to have everything planned, and everyone looked after, way ahead of time) - this is a challenge.

It has never really worked - trying to plan way ahead means that those plans often have to change. I have, as I mentioned, set intentions to change, by 'resigning' - and being more in the flow.There does need to be a balance between the two ways of being in my experience. Some plans are important: in order to run a business, to pay my bills, to get things done. If I did nothing but 'go with the flow', maybe nothing would ever change?

I am reminded once again of the words of the Serenity Prayer:

"Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The Courage to change the things I can,
and the Wisdom to know the difference."
(attribution unknown/disputed)




Some of you may have read or heard me speak about the fulmars I love watching on the cliffs near Trevone, just a few minutes drive from where I live. The photo above is one of the best I have managed to capture, and here is a link to a short video. They are such extraordinary birds, often as they swoop up from below the cliff edge, they seem to look me right in the eye.

The reason for sharing these, even though you have seen them before, is that today I was there again, In addition to the inspiration I received from the fulmars last summer: "Use the uplift. Go with the flow", today the message that popped into my mind was "Be bold." An invitation to action this time.

So, where will I be bold? I am not clear yet. I have already made changes to the plans for this year's group coaching programme. And just this morning, before my walk, before being told "be bold", I had written to our local TedX organisers to ask how to apply to give a talk there this autumn.

Part of my change at the moment is really making writing my first priority - to get "The Powerful Voice of the Quiet Ones" completed so I can send out the copies to everyone who has shown such enthusiasm, and trust, in pre-ordering the book before it is even written. And to continue that practice, to ensure that the bigger book, to help readers take themselves through the Compass Rose process, will also be completed in good time.

This commitment feels a challenge, it is so easy to feel I need to keep on 'doing' to generate money, to keep on interacting and stepping out. Yet I know there is a balance to be found. A way to do that in the most effective way, and to give the time to the writing it deserves. Of course, writing is 'doing' as well, and yet does not seem so immediately productive. And as I reflect now, just as I am checking through this piece, that I thought was ready to send - I see there is another link to the fulmars. In my experience, the best writing, the writing that elicits the most responses from you, the people reading - happens when the words flow directly through me onto the page. The times when that flow seems to come from outside myself.

So, I will continue doing the best I can. I will go on walking on the cliffs and communing with the power of nature. I will set up conditions - as much as I am able to do that - to allow that flow of words. Maybe there is another sort of 'uplift' I can use? I will - in those wonderful words - continue to live the questions.


“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.”
― Rainer Maria Rilke


For you, suggestions for your journal reflections or meditations:
  • What needs clearing for you just now?
  • What changes can you see coming?
  • Can you allow the unknown to unfurl?
  • What is unsolved in your heart? 
  • Can you live, and can you love, the questions themselves?

Events and ways to Dare to Blossom

Cornwall Workshops: The next event of 2020 is on Saturday 14th March, from 10 am to 1 pm, at the Blue Lotus Therapy Centre as usual. This time we will be looking North - to your Guiding Star, your Purpose.

Dare to Blossom at Home: if you would like to host a workshop for you and your guests in your home, have a look at the link and contact me for a chat if you would discuss how it might work for you. I normally keep this to Cornwall and West Devon, but I can always consider other invitations.
 
Thank you dear friends for visiting with me again this month and sharing my musings.

Until next time,

with love,
Mary

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Friday, 27 December 2019

January 2020: Standing in the Doorway

January 2020


Welcome to the Dare to Blossom Newsletter 

It seems strange not to have written a December newsletter, as you may know I was travelling at the time I would normally have sent that out to you. So here we are looking ahead to 2020, as well as celebrating all that has happened over the last year.

Reflections: Standing in the Doorway
New Year Coaching Special Offer
Events and ways to Dare to Blossom


Reflections: Standing in the Doorway
Welcome to the first missive of 2020, all being well you will be reading this just before New Year. Sitting to reflect over the last few days, it has taken me a while to find a focus for this piece. So much has happened this year. So much has happened since I last wrote to you, before my magical journey to New Zealand began at the end of November. I feel as if I am literally standing in the doorway between the old year and the new, watching the stars wheel overhead as the year turns. Standing in that liminal space in between, taking a moment to pause, to reflect.

I returned from New Zealand on 6th December, having been away from home for less than three weeks, and in that time having travelled thousands of miles around the globe and back. Some of you joined me in the "Aotearoa Quest" group - it was a huge honour to have the company of a big group of travellers in spirit with me, thank you, thank you.

There were so many levels to my experience of journeying: the physical travel, and the excitement of seeing new places and revisiting familiar ones; the joy of being reunited with my sister and all her wonderfully large family of three daughters, their husbands and the seven children. Not to mention a new group of animal friends: cats, dogs, horses.

This picture, taken from the plane as we flew over the Southern Alps as we arrived, is one of my favourites. Each time I see it I am brought again to that place of wonder and anticipation.




Underpinning all those precious aspects, there is a deeper  journey, my own quest of reconnection with the land of New Zealand, of Aotearoa. A land where I have only lived briefly, the longest period being for about nine months, and yet a land for which  I feel a deep, deep love. It is so different in some ways to my home part of the planet, here in Cornwall, and yet we are all connected through the oceans and our sharing of this precious home world. Much more is emerging as I reflect and write, this piece contains just a few snippets about my journey.


The initial catalyst for my visit was an invitation to speak at the HerStory conference in Wellington. The whole experience of the event was one of ups and downs. The high points for me were meeting so many online friends and making new friends in person at the event. Sandy B Simmons, one of those online friends, from Melbourne, filmed this on my phone for me while I was giving my talk.  As I prepare to send this out to you all, I am hesitating over including the link to the video. I am - as many people are - very critical of myself. I know that another time I would have spoken differently, maybe more slowly, maybe using different words. Watching it with my sister (who I know will read this too) - was a prompt for conversation. I now know that she too likes quiet time to recharge. It is interesting that throughout my growing-up years I saw her, my 'big sister', as confident, glamorous and out-going, and assumed as I spoke in this talk, that she would see herself as an extrovert. Of course, as I said, we are all different, each of us on a scale, not easily  categorised, not fitting neatly into a box. 

Before and after those few days in Wellington my family and I went on many trips together. It was moving and poignant to visit the beautiful city of Christchurch - so changed by the devastating earthquakes.



Here are the ruins of the cathedral, and below the 'transition' cathedral, also known as the cardboard cathedral as it is literally made of huge cardboard tubes.



The resilience of the people of Christchurch brings me back to reflecting on the doorway that we are all about to step through. None of us can know what the future holds. When we step forward with a smile and with the confidence that we too have the resilience brought by knowing that we can get through each day as it comes, we can overcome the fear that we may feel. . And knowing that we can ask for help when we need to, and know that it will arrive. Memories of a tragic time, yet one it is important to remember, and to celebrate those who were lost, and those who came through and are still rebuilding their lives.



This photo was taken on our whale watching trip out from Kaikoura. Many of you will know that I received a powerful message from a whale in the spirit realm while I was in hospital in August under-going a lumbar puncture. I saw that whale as a humpback. We did not see one of those whales on this trip, yet the boat we travelled on, one of five in the fleet, 'just happened' to be the one named Paikea, the Maori name for the humpback whale. I loved the thought that I was metaphorically riding on a whale as we journeyed out to sea.

The whale in the photo above, which I think was taken by my sister, one of many pictures we took between us, is a sperm whale. They dive for up to an hour, deep, deep down into the ocean. Then they surface and spend around 15 minutes re-oxygenating: breathing in, and spouting out, with just a tiny part of their huge body showing above the waves. If you click on the link above it will take you to the Whale Watch company website where there is information, and an illustration of the real size of the sperm whales. I was lucky enough to catch a very brief video as this whale dived
Later we found a huge pod of dusky dolphins and everyone on board rejoiced with them as they played around the boat in our bow wave.

Such joyful memories to step into 2020 with, at the same time allowing for the unknown to be present and welcoming the new that will be arriving. Looking back as I do so, reflecting on how much has happened during 2019, that I could not possibly have predicted. I wonder what this new year will bring?

For you, suggestions for your journal reflections or meditations:
  • What are the gifts of 2019 for you? 
  • Visualise the doorway connecting 2019 and 2020, how does it appear to you right now?
  • Imagine yourself stepping through. Who is there to help you? Who would you like to invite to be with you?
  • What is the scene spread in front of you?
  • Do you create a Vision Board each year? These suggestions may add perfectly to that ritual, or you could doodle, flow-write, draw or collage a vision of the year ahead. Simply play and have fun.

New Year Coaching Special Offer
One to One Coaching: For January, I have a special offer for you:  the chance to experience the six session 'Compass Rose' programme at half the regular price. You can choose thirty minute or one hour calls on Zoom video-conferencing. Take a look here, and contact me for a complimentary consultation if you would like to explore if this is for you. Remember you will pay just 50% of the prices on the website (either for the package or 'pay as you go)'  - as long as you are one of the first six people to contact me. Simply reply to this email to book or to discuss if this may be your opportunity to follow. You need to contact me before the end of January, and have your first session (or have it booked) during that month, after that you can allow the process to unfold at the speed that is right for you. Some people go right around the Compass Rose in six weeks, others take six months, or a year.

 

Alternatively,you can join the group coaching programme that begins on 31st January - for you as regular readers here, the price is £80 per month. If it would help you, contact me to discuss paying by instalments. Or, to be sure of your place right through the year, you may like to book the full programme. More details below, and on the website.

Events and ways to Dare to Blossom

Cornwall Workshops: The first event of 2020 is on Saturday 25th January, from 10 am to 1 pm, at the Blue Lotus Therapy Centre as usual. We open the new cycle around the year, around the Compass Rose, with 'Centre Point - Peace: Grounding, Balancing'.  

2020 Programmes: "The Power of Your Compass Rose" The new programmes are on the website and the Global Online Circle  begins on 31 January for the February group. Book now if you are keen to reserve your place. As always, if you have any questions, simply email or contact me here.
 
Thank you dear friends for visiting with me again this month and sharing my musings.

Until next time,

with love,
Mary

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Thursday, 24 October 2019

November 2019: The Powerful Voice of the Quiet Ones

November 2019


Welcome to the Dare to Blossom Newsletter 

This is coming to you a week early this month, and will be the last newsletter until some way into December. I return from my travels on the 6th, so I suspect it may take me a little time to settle back in and write to you here.

Who knows, maybe a missive will come your way before then. In the meantime, I hope you enjoy the thoughts shared here.


Time Sensitive: still time to book your 'ticket' to journey with me in spirit
Reflections: The Powerful Voice of the Quiet Ones

Events and ways to Dare to Blossom


Time Sensitive: still time to book your 'ticket' to journey with me in spirit

In case you have yet to see this, I am offering you an opportunity to metaphorically stow away in my suitcase as I travel to New Zealand. Or, at least, a card with your name on will travel with me, to represent you in spirit as I journey around the world. Bookings close on 3 November, then I will take some special time to write your card and place it with all the others who are journeying with me, in a safe pouch in my bag. I will also draw four Rediscovery Cards for you, one for each point of the Compass, and put them in an envelope with your name and address upon it, ready to add your well-travelled card on my return and send them to you through the 'real' mail.



Click on the photo for more details and to book your ticket. For those of you who are happy on Facebook, I will be opening a private group there for everyone who is travelling in spirit with me.


Reflections: The Powerful Voice of the Quiet Ones
The catalyst for my visit to New Zealand, as well as a wonderful opportunity for a long-overdue visit to my family, was an invitation to speak at the HerStory Circle Conference in Wellington. The title of my talk is the theme of these reflections, the powerful voice of the quiet ones.

Reflecting,as I wrote the chapter that each speaker has been invited to submit for the anthology of stories for the conference, was an interesting experience. You will be able to read the full piece after the book is published. It was at first a big challenge to write 5,000 - 10,000 words. Most of the books to which I have been a contributing author, such as the 365 series, have presented the opposite challenge, of sharing an inspiring story in 300 words. (The very last in this series, "365 Soulful Messages" will be published in November. I have also contributed to "365 Moments of Grace", and "365 Life Shifts".)

Do you count yourself as a 'quiet one'?
  Or are you the life and soul of the party? Or, maybe both, at different times? I am sure when we are small babies we are all well able to make our voices heard, to make a noise when we are uncomfortable in some way. As a child I was told it was 'good' to be quiet.

Some years ago I began to learn about introversion and extroversion. All of us would be somewhere on the scale, and I don't believe it is fixed. However, the simple distinction I read about helped me understand myself more. Introverts tend to recharge their batteries by being alone: out in nature, reading, painting, writing, meditating. Extroverts tend to gain their energy by being with people, the centre of a crowd, maybe at a party, dancing, playing team sports, sharing all sorts of activities. These distinctions are simplified: we all probably enjoy being alone at times, and at other times in a lively place with lots of friends.

So, for me, it means for example that when I go to a big event, such as a conference, I need to have a place to retreat to, ideally the room where I am staying is close by. And places where I can sit with one or two people and enjoy in-depth conversations. Failing that, you may see me retreat into my own thoughts even in a crowd, as illustrated by this photo taken without my knowledge at a conference a few years ago.



So, how do you regain your powerful voice as a 'quiet one'? I can only reflect on my own experience, my journey, and hope you will find some resonance with your own experience. It took me a while to come to understand that being powerful did not mean 'loud'. Certainly not for me, nor I suspect, for many others. I learned through being a trainer and giving talks to quite large and lively groups, that standing silently can be a more powerful way of bringing attention to the fact that you are ready to speak than shouting. Sometimes I would raise my arm, as we used to do in school when I was small, others soon notice and do the same - the quietness spreads. 

Being heard is not about having a loud voice, although in some circumstances it is about learning to project your voice, and to speak slowly and clearly, something I learned through training and experience. In other situations there can be all sorts of emotional barriers to being heard. And to speaking clearly, to stepping away from emotion for a moment at least.

Writing helped me: writing for myself initially. I began doing that on the day I was diagnosed with cervical cancer in 1994. I bought a journal and began writing. I recorded everything: what the doctors said, questions I had, feelings, experiences, frustrations. My journal became a friend and a safe haven. Somewhere I could place all the things I couldn't, or didn't want to, share with my family and friends. Later I discovered how common it is for the person with the illness, especially something like cancer, to feel they need to be strong, to protect family and friends by not sharing their true feelings. Later my journal was the starting point for my compilation of women's stories, published in 1998 as 'Flying in the Face of Fear'.

Moving on through the years, when I chose to return to running Dare to Blossom Life Coaching full time in 2015, after 12 years of enjoying employed roles as a business coach and trainer, I found the concept of 'power' arising frequently.

Many of us are afraid of the very idea of power. We may associate it with the old paradigm of power over people, control by fear, keeping people down so you can rise to the top. No wonder we reject that idea. The power I have been exploring for myself and in so many coaching conversations since, is collaborative, sharing, 'together we rise'. A more gentle, even quiet, feminine power. Many people I know, men and women, yearn for more balance, for more of the feminine alongside the masculine. A power with others.

From those reflections and conversations, grew the programmes I have been running since then, and which are changing and evolving each year. The 2020 version is called "The Power of Your Compass Rose". This has also emerged as the title of the book that will now be completed after my trip to New Zealand.  I know in my heart now that this journey is for me a necessary part of that writing, a reason for the book not being ready to be finished earlier. A journey of reunions with my family, and with the land of that magical country, and then a journey home with those new experiences, a journey home to myself - this will add the completion to the book I had been searching for without knowing what it was before.


For you, suggestions for your journal reflections or meditations:
  • How do you see yourself on the scale between introvert and extrovert? You may like to reflect in your journal about how you behave in different situations.
  • What is your first response to the word 'power'?
  • What else is there? And, what else?
  • Do you have something you would like more people to hear? If so, explore your preferred way of communicating. Is it through the spoken word? In writing? One-to-one or in a larger group?
  • If you feel strongly about your message, choose the most comfortable way and ... just begin.
This poem, a blessing, by John O'Donohue, has great significance for me:

“To Come Home to Yourself”

“May all that is unforgiven in you be released, may your fears yield their deepest tranquilities, may all that is unlived in you blossom into a future graced with love.”


Events and ways to Dare to Blossom

One to One Coaching: I will be opening booking for coaching again in January 2020. If this is something you would like to explore, we can share a conversation on Zoom during an initial complimentary consultation before then. Here is the link to my scheduler. Apart from when I am away travelling, I would always say that if you can't find a convenient time (especially if we are in different time zones), just ask, as it is always possible to find a mutually convenient time.

Cornwall Workshops: The last event of 2019 is on Saturday 16th November, from 10 am to 1 pm, at the Blue Lotus Therapy Centre as usual. We complete the circle, the cycle around the year, around the Compass Rose, with 'Return to Peace'.  The first event of 2020 is on Saturday 25th January.

2020 Programmes: "The Power of Your Compass Rose" The new programmes are on the website and the Global Online Circle is open for booking now if you are keen to reserve your place. As always, if you have any questions, simply email or contact me here.

Thank you dear friends for visiting with me again this month and sharing my musings.

Until next time,

with love,
Mary

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