Tuesday, 28 September 2021

October 2021 The Story Continues

 

The Story Continues: Doris the not-very-brave dragon
October short programme: 'Daring to Blossom: if not now, then when?'
'Coaching for Coaches' and 'Coaching for Creatives'

Dare to Blossom Monthly Circles on Zoom
November six week programme: 'Weaving Shadow and Light'

The Story Continues: Doris the not-very-brave dragon

Thank you to everyone who responded to the first part of the story. I have since shared more on Facebook - and have set up a private group where people can find all the episodes without needing to search for them. I know many of you prefer to read my news here - so the next few episodes will folllow.

Episode 3

As Doris flew into the green, she was still thinking about the creature. She had never met anyone who was waiting, apparently happily, to ‘dissolve’. Mmmm, how interesting, she thought to herself.

All of a sudden, she realised she hadn’t been paying attention to where she was heading. Now she saw that the green colour had changed, it was deeper, still with some green, and also purple. Oh no, I hope I am not going back into the dark cave, she thought to herself. She remembered she had resolved to pretend to be brave, and so she looked around again. She saw radiating shapes, petals maybe? Signposts showing her different directions?

Oh gosh, that is what they are, that means I must choose. So far Doris had simply been flying along following her nose, even when she was started by the creature with the legs. Now she was being asked to make a decision. She decided to stop right in the centre of the purple petals, or compass points, whatever they were. She found quite a nice perch and rested there for a while, catching her breath, and looking around. Each direction was different, in colour in shape, in feel – oh, and in sound!



Doris realised that now she had stopped flying and hearing the whoosh of her own wings, that there were other sounds here. Not a voice this time, but songs, tones, music.  She decided to take some time, to listen to the sound coming from each direction in turn.
She was totally absorbed in listening, turning to face each petal or point as she lost herself in those tones, those voices. She realised each on had a slightly different message, even though there were no words. Suddenly, she had a vivid memory of her mother singing to her while she was still inside her egg. Oh, she felt quite tearful.

Somehow, she knew that all dragon mothers tended their eggs, keeping them warm and singing to them until just before the moment they were ready to hatch. Then the mother dragon left on the next stage of her own quest, whatever that might be. Even knowing that, Doris still felt sad. I wonder if I will ever meet my mother, she wondered.

Giving herself a shake and opening her wings for a flap and a stretch, she decided it was time to choose. Just at that moment she heard a new sound, a very soft “Wooo”. Doris managed not to emit a loud “Eeek!” as she did before, but she looked around rather anxiously. She realised that along one of the directions, the one slightly North and East, the one that has a double centre, she could now see a path. Along that path in the dim light was the outline of a tree, silhouetted against what looked like the light of the moon, still below the horizon but beginning to rise to her full glory.

Without daring to think about what might have made that noise, Doris decided to set off in that direction. As she flew slowly down the path, she saw a shape on one of the branches, as she approached a head turned and two piercing orange eyes looked her for a moment, before the being covered them with deep lids – and then opened them again. “Wooo!” the shape said again.


 
Doris couldn’t quite believe she was meeting so many living creatures here. She noticed that her intuition had told her this was an Owl, how did she know that? Again, she heard her mother’s songs, telling stories of the world she would be born into, begin to take more form and make more sense now she was out exploring that world.

Doris took a deep breath, wondering what to say to the Owl.

Episode 4

“Wooo!” said the Owl again, “Who are you?”

“Hello,” replied Doris politely, “I think you are an owl?”

The owl turned his head from side to side even while keeping those piercing orange eyes fixed on Doris, which felt rather uncomfortable. “Yes, but who are you?” he said again.

“Who are you?” repeated the Owl. Doris thought this was rather rude, but as this was the first owl she had ever met, decided to ignore that. She was not quite sure how to answer, and thought for a while, before replying. “Well, I know I am a dragon, and my mother gave me my first name, Doris, while I was still inside my egg.”

Doris suddenly remembered her mother speaking soft words to her as well as singing. “She also told me it was up to me to discover who I truly am, and what my name will be when I am a fully-grown dragon.”

“Wooo”, said the Owl again, then opened his wings and seemed to simply vanish amongst the dark trees.

Oh dear, thought Doris to herself, aren’t owls supposed to be wise? It would have been nice if he had shared some of his wisdom with me. “OK, it must be up to me,” she said out loud, surprising herself at how brave that sounded.




Just then Doris heard crackles and sparks behind her and realised there was a light as well, a little as if the sun was rising. Hmm… she thought to herself, how do I know the words ‘sun rise’ when I have yet to see that for myself?

Deciding that question could wait, she turned carefully and saw these silver shapes dancing amongst the greens and browns of the trees. Then she heard high-pitched voices: “Come on, come on, follow us!”
 
Episode 5

“Come on, come on, follow us!” The high-pitched voices called again, seeming to come from those silvery shapes dancing amongst the trees.

Doris hesitated. After all, she still felt like a not-very-brave dragon. One of them came a little closer. In fact a little too close, hovering right in front of her nose. Doris rather wished that she was old enough to breathe out fire, and then corrected herself, thinking that was a little unkind – after all the creatures she had met along the way so far had all been helpful even if a little strange.

The silvery being now looked a little like a fairy. She tilted her head on one side, looking intently at Doris. “Well,” she said thoughtfully, “you must be Doris the not-very-brave dragon?”

“How do you know that?” asked Doris, very surprised.

“Your mother asked us to look out for you,” replied the fairy, “she thought you might come this way in your quest to discover your new brave dragon name.”

“Oh, OK then,” Doris still felt a little hesitant, but decided she would just have to carry on acting as if she felt brave, “Where are we going?”

“Just follow me and I will show you, there is someone else I would like you to meet.”

So, Doris stretched her wings again, and took flight to follow the silver shapes through the trees, wondering who on earth, or in heaven, or wherever she was, she was going to meet next. Life as a young dragon certainly has lots of things to explore, she thought as she flew onwards.

After what seemed a long journey, with a lot of dodging between trees and trying to keep up with the silver fairy beings, Doris noticed that they seemed to be approaching a clearing in the forest. There was a sort of silver light shining downwards, she couldn’t make out where it was coming from, maybe the moon? (Doris was continually amazed that she knew all these names of things she had never seen, and each time a memory came back of all the stories her mother told to her while she was still in her egg).
As she came closer, all the silver dancing shapes had disappeared, but when she looked upwards into the sky above the clearing, she realised they were sitting in a circle all around and shining brightly. So brightly that they were casting a light, almost a spotlight, downwards.

Just then the silver fairy who had come close before appeared right in from of Doris’ nose again, causing her to stop rather suddenly. “Goodness!” she said, “you made me jump.” “Sorry,” replied the fairy, “I need to introduce you properly, the being you are about to meet is very keen on etiquette.”

Doris rather desperately searched her memories of any mention of ‘etiquette’, but could find nothing. She must have looked worried as the fairy patted the side of her nose and whispered, “Don’t worry.”

The fairy danced into the clearing, with Doris following slowly and rather fearfully. In the middle she saw a green mound with leaves, big, spreading leaves. In the centre of the green mound was a most beautiful pink creature. Doris thought it was like a wonderful blossom on an exotic plant, but as she had been told this was a being, she didn’t know how to behave.

“Your Magical Magnificance,” said the fairy, “please may I introduce a young dragon who is on a quest to find her bravery and her true dragon name?”

The pink shape shimmered, so beautifully that Doris forgot to be afraid. “Come closer, young dragon.” The voice was so warm, so welcoming, that Doris stepped forward without a thought.

“Hello, who are you at the moment?”

“Well,” Doris said, rather hesitantly, ”just now I think I am Doris the not-very-brave dragon.”



The creature shimmered even more, with a tinkling sound, and Doris realised she was laughing – although she had now idea why she knew it was a ‘she’.

“You will soon be able to lose the ‘not-very-brave’ part,” she said, “I think you have already been extremely brave, in all the experiences you have encountered so far. Do you have any ideas yet what you would like your new name to be?”

“Noooo….” replied Doris.

“Well, I suspect it is time for you to sleep well and dream up some ideas for the next name you would like to choose. You can change your name as often as you wish.”

That was a new idea to Doris and she rather wished she could ask questions but the pink shimmering being seemed to be sending her away. Her fairy guide appeared again and led her to a place where the colours were all shades of grey and white, with just a little hint of pink, as if the creature’s aura reached here, keeping her safe as she slept.




“Rest here,” said the fairy, “we will bring you food and drink later when you wake.”

So, Doris snuggled down amongst the soft rounded shapes that turned into fluffy pillows and bedding, the most comfortable bed she had ever experienced, it felt like floating on a cloud. “A cloud….?” Her conscious mind queried as she dropped off to sleep. “Yes, little one, a cloud,” she heard her mother’s voice say, “sleep now, sleep well and dream magical names.”

To be continued.....

© Mary Lunnen 2021
 

October short programme: 'Daring to Blossom: if not now, then when?'

As you know, as a regular reader, over the last few years most of my programmes have been six weeks long, giving plenty of time to explore each part and place of the Compass Rose, beginning in Peace and ending there after spending a week with each compass direction.

And - as an experiment for anyone who would like to dip a toe in or who has a busy life, as I know many of you do - next week, starting on Tuesday 5th October, I am offering a three week 'quick dip' (as distinct from a 'deep dive' as I often call the circles I offer).

The theme is going back to the foundations of my work, which are always there supporting me, and I hope those I work with. Week 1 will look at 'Where are you now?'. Week 2 'Where do you want to be?' - and as I always say to people, if you have no idea how to answer that question that is absolutely fine - it isn't a binding plan that you will be forced to stick to - it could simply be an idea for tomorrow, or next week. And - for some people it can be a chance to dream their biggest dreams and take a step towards them.

So, Week 3 is 'How will you get there?' - a chance to plan some small steps forwards, always with the knowledge that at each step you can look around and review and ask anew 'Where do I want to be?'

Click on the Bud painting for more information.




The full details are all here,
time is quite short before we begin, please do contact me if you have any questions. The Zoom gatherings will at 11.00 am and/or 7.00 pm on Tuesdays (UK times) - depending on those who decide to join me. The fee is £59.

If you prefer to work through this programme one to one with me with flexible times, here is a special offer for a three session coaching programme - click here and go to the end of the page. Once again contact me if you would like to know more.

(Details of the next six week programme, 'Weaving Shadow and Light' can be found by scrolling down.)

'Coaching for Coaches' and 'Coaching for Creatives'

These offerings have also emerged from a 'return to my roots' exploration, this time my 2008 book Dare to Blossom: Coaching and Creativity. Reviewing who most of my one to one clients are, I noticed that most, if not all, could be described as either a coach or a creative person. Most often they would say, as I do, that they are both. 

I am still writing new words for the website so at the moment just the 'Coaching for Coaches' offering appears there - you are the first to hear the news of the service for creatives. (The pricing structure will be the same for both).




Thinking back to the twelve years I spent employed as a coach and trainer for people planning to become self-employed, many of those people are in the 'creative' field. I treasure the memory of one of them telling me, following the session I helped to design on financial planning and cash flow forecasting, that this was the first time she had ever understood how this worked. She said she had always thought her creative brain was incapable of understanding those concepts.

Often it is a good thing to use our strengths and delegate the parts we don't enjoy to others who do and who are specialists - and, it is important to have a basic understanding in order to run your business.

So - that memory has taken me into a bit of a side-track, I am not necessarily suggesting your coaching would include financial planning - but it may well do. That story is however, an example of how my experience as a creative person as well as in my own business and in training others, can offer support.


Dare to Blossom Monthly Circles on Zoom

The monthly circles for October are Thursday 7th at 9.00 am, and Saturday 9th at 11.00 am, UK times. You can book on Facebook or LinkedIn, or simply reply to this email and ask me for the Zoom link.  Payment is by donation, depending on your circumstances. People offer from zero to £30, with no expectation, simply deep gratitude for your presence. 




 

November six week programme: 'Weaving Shadow and Light'

The details for the November programme will be available on my website very soon.. To find out more please do contact me to book a one to one chat on Zoom.

There will be Taster Zoom gatherings on Tuesday 26th October at 11.00 am and Thursday 28th at 2.30 pm. We begin on Monday 1st November and run through the six week flow around the Compass Rose, ending on Friday 10th December.

with love,

Thank you for joining me here this month, any thoughts, feedback, or questions are always welcome.

 

Mary

Monday, 30 August 2021

September - 2021 - a story begins

Doris the not-very-brave dragon

A book review: 'She of the Sea' by Lucy Pearce
Dare to Blossom Monthly Circles on Zoom
September six week programme: 'Being Powerfully Yourself'

Doris the not-very-brave dragon

Recently, on a whim, I began a story, prompted by one of my recent paintings.

I shared it on Facebook and received such lovely responses that I decided to write a second instalment. I will share both of those parts here and then perhaps when the rest of the story emerges, more in future newsletters.

(If the fonts and text sizes keep changing, please forgive me, this has been happening a lot when writing these newsletters lately and I have yet to work out how to fix that issue.)



Once upon a time, there was a young dragon. She was not yet very brave.
 
Did you know that when a dragon is scared their colours fade and they become slightly transparent? That is why the silhouette of the dragon in my painting looks a little faint.

Anyway Doris, for that was her name, although she didn’t much like it - she resolved to find a new name when she felt braver, Doris the young dragon found herself all alone in a dark cave.
 

She decided the only thing to do was to pretend she was already brave and open her wings and set off....
 
As she flew the colours around her began to brighten and glow.


Doris looked around in amazement, and awe, and a little trepidation. Those colours are gorgeous, she thought, maybe I can choose some of those for my new colours when I become more brave. For now, she decided to carry on pretending her heart was full of courage anyway, and flew on.
 
“Hello” said a voice. “Eeeek”, squeaked Doris. She nearly fell out of the air but found a rocky pinnacle to perch on for a moment. Deep breaths, deep breaths, she said to herself.
 
Doris plucked up more courage to look around to see who had spoken. She saw more lovely colours. Then she began to make out what could be legs. Or maybe folded wings. Or……?




“Who, what, are you?” she asked, doing her very best to feel brave.

“I am a friend, little one, no need to fear me. And, I don’t have a name yet.”

Doris began to be a little more curious, a little more brave. “Oh, that is interesting, I have a name, but I want to change it. How will you choose your name?”

“Ah”, replied the strange being – Doris still had no idea what she, or he, might be. A spider? A crab? Doris really had no idea what these words signified in any case, but somehow they popped into her mind.

“Ah, I haven’t decided yet. It rather depends on how I feel once this body I am in now dissolves and I emerge as a new being.”

Doris had no idea what to make of this idea, so she said goodbye politely and decided to fly onwards, into the green opening beneath the creature.

(to be continued)

An amazing synchronicity - on the last weekend in August, day or so after I began this story,  the launch took place in Plymouth, of an extraordinary puppet/kite called The Hatchling - a dragon newly hatched from her egg.  Watch a clip here or visit the main website here.



A book review: 'She of the Sea' by Lucy Pearce


As many of you will know, I live a few miles from the coast here in north Cornwall, and one of my great loves is walking the coast path at ll times of year. You may also know that I am a huge fan of all the books published by Lucy Pearce at Womancraft Publishing, a small independent company, also based by the sea - just across the water as the seagull flies from me, in Cork. (Click on the image to go to the Womancraft Publishing website.)



As you may imagine, when I heard that Lucy's next book would be this one, with the intriguing title 'She of the Sea', I reserved my copy just as soon as pre-orders opened. I always do that, so I receive my book a little ahead of the main publication date - even when that is some time away - as I know how precarious cash-flow can be for many small businesses. I don't know if this is true for Womancraft but I am happy to help in a small way. There is also a bundle of special treats for people who pre-order as well. This time these included s beautifully chosen playlist.

In case you are wondering, I am not 'on commission' just a huge fan of all the books Lucy publishes, her own work and that of the authors she chooses for her list.

So, what is the book like? I am truly lost for words to know how to describe it to you. It is a treasure chest of poems, stories from other women, illustrations, suggestions for art projects, in-depth research, a call to action. All of these and much more. Along the way Lucy shares her own experiences as a woman, a mother. As someone whose brain works differently to others, in ways I will leave you to read about for yourself if you so choose. A woman with immense talent as an artist and a weaver of words. All I can add is this is one of very few books that I will read again, and very soon.

With my pre-order copy, I received a special She of the Sea bookmark, I will share this poem which I found there, and which also features in the book:

May yours be the sparkle
of light on the ocean,
The whisper of foam on the sea,
The warm sand guiding
your feet safely home,
A pebble in your pocket from me.

Some sea glass, a starfish,
some driftwood, a whelk,
Treasures washed
up on the shore.
A flower, a feather, an
urchin, a pearl,
Keep your eyes open for more.

May you know yourself held
in the palm of Her hand,
Blessed by the waves
wild and free,
Blown by the wind,
anointed with salt,
Beloved of She of the Sea.

© Lucy H Pearce 2021
 

If you would like tome prompts for meditation or reflection, you may like to read the poem aloud and choose any words or phrases that stand out for you as a starting point - then see where She of the Sea takes you.

I am not sure if this really qualifies as a 'review' of She of the Sea - and yet, it is the best I can offer just now.

 

Dare to Blossom Monthly Circles on Zoom



The monthly circles for September are Thursday 2nd at 9.00 am, and Saturday 11th at 11.00 am - UK times. You can book on Facebook or LinkedIn, or by replying to this email so I can send you the Zoom link. There is no fee, simply a suggestion that you may like to offer a donation for my time and the gifts you receive. No expectation from me, people offer what is possible in their circumstances and what feels right from zero upwards. Anything is received with gratitude, and most of all I love the joy of your presence in the Circle.

These are a good way to connect if you prefer not to join the Facebook groups. You will see below a Taster Circle for the September programme at 2.30 pm UK time - this may suit you if you are in the USA, and you are most welcome to join us, regardless of any intention to join for the six weeks. There is never any pressure, and do remember that you can also take part in that by email if you would like to join us as described in the recent special bulletin.

 

September six week programme: "Being Powerfully Yourself"

The details for the September programme are now available on my website, and bookings are open. What the phrase 'being powerfully myself' bring for you? Maybe you feel drawn to join us and explore?


Would you like to know more? Visit the website page here (booking is open now), or contact me to book a one to one chat on Zoom.

There will be Taster Zoom gatherings on Tuesday 7th September at 11.00 am and Thursday 9th at 2.30 pm. We begin on Monday 13th September and run through the six week flow around the Compass Rose, ending on Friday 22nd October.

with love,

Thank you for joining me here this month, any thoughts, feedback, or questions are always welcome.

 

Mary

Friday, 30 July 2021

August 2021 A Pause

 

Reflections: A Pause
Dare to Blossom Monthly Circles on Zoom: A trial additional day and time - Monday 2nd August at 7.30 pm.
August openings for 1:1 conversations

September six week programme: "Being Powerfully Yourself"


Reflections: A Pause


Here in Cornwall, August is always a very busy month with people enjoying their holidays, and even more so this year. For me, preferring as I do the quiet places, and given that my business is quieter, August is an opportunity for a pause, a rest. A chance to sit in a shady spot in my garden and dip into some of my summer reading. (I suspect some of this selection will not be finished until well into autumn however....)



The top book in the pile above, 'Braiding Sweetgrass' by Robin Wall Kimmerer, has some exquisite descriptions of the author's observations of nature. For example, in the chapter I have just read, 'Witness to the Rain', she is in the temperate rainforest of the west coast, in Oregon, exploring how the rain makes different noises as it lands on all the leaves of the various plants.

As I sit here, at my desk, with the door open, I can hear a crow cawing loudly, and now another answering, and another, as if in conversation, or maybe argument. I can hear the wind in the trees around my garden. I feel that the temperature has dropped as the sun went behind a cloud. Oh!  As I write, a very large dragonfly has just flown in the door......

A few minutes later.... having picked up my phone just in case it settled and I was able to take a photo, it has gone - I am assuming either back out of the door, or through the window I opened quickly to give it another option. How interesting. We see them fleetingly in the garden at this time of year. Occasionally I do notice where one settles and tiptoe closer to take a picture, but I don't recall one ever visiting me indoors before. As a friend said later, it was probably good to simply enjoy the unusual moment, rather than trying to 'capture' it in a photograph.

Here is one who visited us last year and settled for several minutes on the vegetation. I think my visitor today had a yellow and green body, but it was about this size or larger. A quick piece of research suggests they are both one of the Hawker family of dragonflies.




Whether it is summer or winter for you, or if in your part of the world it is simply 'wet or wetter' as one of my friends in the tropics says - I invite you to take a pause. Maybe to read, or to journal, or doodle. Maybe simply to sit and observe the world around you. I think those are all the suggestions necessary this month.
 

Dare to Blossom Monthly Circles on Zoom: A trial additional day and time - Monday 2nd August at 7.30 pm.
 

I have been asked for another time slot - 7.30 pm UK time to suit those of you who work in the evenings, or who are in time zones in the USA and Canada. So as a trial, there are three opportunities during August, the date and time above, plus Thursday 5th at 9.00 am, and Saturday 14th at 11.00 am - all UK times. You can book on Facebook or LinkedIn, or simply by replying to this email so I can send you the Zoom link.


August openings for 1:1 conversations

During  August I have some openings for 1:1 conversations. If you have ever thought you would like to know more about any of my work, and how it might be helpful for you, just book a time through my 
scheduling link here. Book the 20 minute complimentary consultation, and I will send you a Zoom link so we can chat over a cuppa. No sales talk, simply a time to connect. Years ago, when my coaching was mostly done over the telephone, I remember answering the phone one day. The person had been thinking about booking some coaching sessions for some time, she said that as soon as she heard my voice she knew it was right for her to go ahead. That may or may not happen for you, at the very least we will explore a little, I will draw a Dare to Blossom card for you, maybe share the Compass Rose meditation.
 

September six week programme: "Being Powerfully Yourself"

The summer circle "Time for You" is now underway with the perfect small group. The details for the September programme will be available on my website soon, and I will share them in the September newsletter. For now, simply sit with what the phrase 'being powerfully myself' brings for you.

So often we are told, often by well-meaning friends or family "Just be yourself." For me that has not been very helpful in the past: it brings fears and worries. What if the 'myself' I am being is not good enough/ likeable enough/ professional enough..... etc etc. For years I not only didn't really like 'myself' as I saw her, I was ashamed of her and afraid to share the real me.

Now I know that underneath all those fears there is another part of me. A part that has been waiting, mostly patiently, for me to rediscover her. To step back into her power. To choose how to be in the world, proudly and unapologetically.

I chose this favourite photo for the webpage for "Being Powerfully Yourself".


Would you like to know more? Visit the website page here soon when I will have created a plan for the flow of this circle, or contact me to book a one to one chat on Zoom.

There will be Taster Zoom gatherings on Tuesday 7th September at 11.00 am and Thursday 9th at 2.30 pm. We begin on Monday 13th September and run through the six week flow around the Compass Rose, ending on Friday 22nd October.


Thank you for joining me here this month, any thoughts, feedback, or questions are always welcome.

with love,

Mary


Monday, 28 June 2021

July 2021 Summertime Thoughts

Reflections: Summertime Thoughts

July and August openings for 1:1 conversations
Summer Circle "Time for you"
Dare to Blossom Monthly Circle on Zoom: Thursday 1st July and Saturday 10th July
"Be Powerfully Yourself" one to one coaching programme
Summertime Reading recommendation: "The Hut" by Zeeba Ansari

 

Reflections: Summertime Thoughts


Music sparks so many memories - "Summertime, and the livin' is easy" is one of those songs for me. It comes from "Porgy and Bess", and so many singers have made it their own - Aretha Franklin, Nina Simone, many more.

(An apology to those of you who are in parts of the world where it is mid winter for you - maybe these reflections will bring some summertime memories back for you?)

I have chosen a
version by Billy Holiday to share here as it has the brass instruments that fit with the version I remember.  The quality is not perfect but very evocative. Here is another jazz version by Andrea Motis with The Joan Chamorro Quintet and Scott Hamilton. The music takes me back to one year at the Royal Cornwall Agricultural Show, held near where I live, at the dedicated showground at Wadebridge. On this year I was wandering around enjoying the atmosphere. There was a jazz band playing on an open-topped double-decker bus. As usual, there was a wind blowing, flags and banners were fluttering in the breeze, the weather was a mixture of sunshine and cloud. The tune drifted across the hillside. Entrancing.

This takes me now to all the times I spent at the show every year, in early June. For many years, probably beginning in the late 1970s or early 1980s, I exhibited my copper enamel jewellery and tie-dyed silk scarves in the local craft tent there. I cannot remember now for how many years I did that, but at some stage I decided to stop after finding it simply too exhausting. Even with much-appreciated help from my mother and my husband, it took so much energy. Hot, cold, wet, strong winds, thunder storms - we experienced everything. That last year it was very dry and dusty and on the evening of the last day after the hard work of packing everything away, queuing to get my car into the showground, then queuing some more to get out again and on the road home - after all that I found myself struggling to breathe, almost like an asthma attack, although I have never experienced one before, or since. I decided then and there that would be my last year.

This photo may have been taken at the Royal Cornwall Show. More likely at one of the smaller events held in a marquee each year as the bigger show had canvas sides between each stall, and so the clothes next door wouldn't have been visible. Apologies for the photo quality, a rather fuzzy photo dating back to the 1980s.



So, there was a break for a while, then my husband decided to begin exhibiting his new business, making custom designed bodyboards for serious surfers. For a few years he took a stand in the 'Wadebridge Street' where the stands were open-fronted on each side of the 'street'. This meant there was plenty of air, less dust - and also lots of rain blowing in at times. Later he built his own stand-alone exhibition tent and took a space only, which gave him more room, although even more work assembling and breaking it down each year. Eventually he decided exhibiting was not paying off in sales and publicity. The end of another chapter.

Later still, I attended for a couple of years when I worked for Outset Cornwall, as one of the team providing business start-up training and coaching. That was good fun too, especially as we worked in shifts and had official time off to go round with our leaflets and talk to people.

Lots of memories, beginning with just one event,  leading on to others, conjured up by a piece of music.



Summer Reflections Constantine Bay

For you, for your meditations or journal - to flow-write, doodle, paint, dance, sing - however you wish to express your thoughts and feelings: 

  • Is there a particular piece of music that brings memories for you?
  • Maybe play that music and simply listen and see what arises - it may not be what you expect.
  • Explore in any way you wish, in your journal or sketch book perhaps.

Take good care of yourself while you do this - I know some music can prompt sad memories and tears for me, perhaps for you too? This can be a good way to release whatever that emotion is, and I know for me it can be helpful to set up a place and time that supports me if possible. I also know it is easy to be 'ambushed', perhaps by the car radio suddenly playing something that prompts a response. Often a bittersweet mix of happy and sad memories.

July and August openings for 1:1 conversations

During July and August I have some openings for 1:1 conversations. If you have ever thought you would like to know more about any of my work, and how it might be helpful for you, just book a time through my scheduling link here. Book the 20 minute complimentary consultation, and I will send you a Zoom link so we can chat over a cuppa. No sales talk, simply a time to connect. Years ago, when my coaching was mostly done over the telephone, I remember taking a call one day. The person had been thinking about booking some coaching sessions for some time, she said that as soon as she heard my voice she knew it was right for her to go ahead. That may or may not happen for you, at the very least we will explore a little, I will draw a Dare to Blossom card for you, maybe share the Compass Rose meditation.

If the times offered do not suit you, just contact me as I have more flexibility than the calendar suggests.


Summer Circle "Time for you"

The next six week exploration begins on 26th July, with the theme "Time for You". There are two taster circles the week before, on Monday 19th at 7.30 pm, and Tuesday 20th at 11.00 am (UK times). Contact me to book, or follow the links to go via Facebook. If you prefer not to use Facebook, you can of course still take part.



Full details of the programme and the new pricing structure, with three bands, on a pay what you can basis,  are here.

Dare to Blossom Monthly Circle on Zoom: Thursday 1st July and Saturday 10th July
 

The Thursday slot is becoming a regular event as well as a Saturday once a month. Join us at one or both - for those of you who prefer not to be on Facebook, these are simply stand-alone gatherings on Zoom. Contact me to book, and find the full details here.   (PS I have no idea why this section insists on being in bold....)
 

"Be Powerfully Yourself" one to one coaching programme

There are still places available, click here for details.

Summertime Reading recommendation: "The Hut" by Zeeba Ansari

A book that I have yet to read myself - but I can one I whole-heartedly recommend on the basis of the readings I was honoured to hear at the recent launch with Zeeba. We met when I first joined the Cornwall branch of Lapidus, the 'words for well-being' organisation, a number of years ago now. Listening to Zeeba, and another Lapidus friend reading extracts I was transported immediately into the story, and ordered my copy straight after the gathering as I can't wait to find out more. You can of course buy almost anywhere online, Zeeba published through Troubadour, so you may like to go there. 

Thank you for joining me here this month, any thoughts, feedback, or questions are always welcome.

with love,

Mary


Friday, 28 May 2021

June 2021 Questions

 

June 2021

Welcome to the Dare to Blossom Newsletter


Reflections: Questions
For the last time, from my archives: June titles poem
Last opportunity to book your place for "Weaving Shadow and Light"
Dare to Blossom Monthly Circle on Zoom: Thursday 3rd June (Special) and Saturday 12th June
"Be Powerfully Yourself" one to one coaching programme


 

Reflections: Questions


As always, I find myself wondering what to write about this month. Usually it becomes clear quickly, not so just now.... very interesting. 

I began yesterday, as I often do, by writing in my journal, here are those musings: my critical inner voice says it would be more 'efficient' to sit at my desk and type straight into the newsletter. Maybe so, if I am measuring the time it takes to write a certain number of words. And yet, I never count the words in these reflections for you, why would I?

The measure of 'value' for me here is not the quantity, nor even the 'quality', if that subjective thought could be defined. Rather, I feel that when I read a newsletter or a blog, my response is based on whether there is a nugget of gold within the words. Is that true for you?

A little piece of wisdom that makes me stop, read again, maybe make a note, or highlight the words if I am reading on paper. That little spark of recognition is magical for me. It doesn't appear every time I read something even by a favourite writer, yet often enough for me to know it is worth opening the emails and reading. Sometimes the spark is more like a warm glow, a feeling of companionship.

Many of you are writers as well as readers - how would you describe this? The spark, the warm glow, something else?



That was where I ended yesterday, sitting in the garden. I now see that I was already preparing for this piece, with the subject 'Questions'. Often for me that spark I have just written about comes in the form of a question, of a prompt to journal - maybe literal prompts such as those I include each month for you here. Maybe simply something in the author's words that makes me curious to explore.


For you, for your meditations or journal - to flow-write, doodle, paint, dance, sing - however you wish to express your thoughts and feelings: You may like to follow the questions I wrote above for myself.

  • What questions arise for you right now?
  • Which will you choose to explore?
  • What else is there?
  • And, what else?

For the last time, from my archives: June titles poem

A year ago, I began this exercise of revisiting the titles of all the 'Reflections' in these newsletters, back to when I began in 2007, so this is the last. I notice that I may have mixed up the issues last time as that one also began with 'Seeing with new eyes'. And that is fine. And I also repeated that title over the years, revisiting old writing and reflecting anew. It just happens, because of my 'mistake' last month, that the poem, whichever direction it is read, starts and begins with that phrase.

I also notice, I used 'Rest' twice - and that is a perennial theme for me. One of my challenges is simply allowing myself to do that, to rest. Finally, I see that the line 'Subject, unknown' was also from a year when, in this same month, I could not decide on a theme, a little like this time, with 'Questions'.

I wonder what you will notice, from your own experience, as you read this?


Seeing with new eyes
Procrastination
Rest
Asking for help
Keeping the flame alive
Strong and True
Emerging
Endings and Beginnings
Midsummer Magic
Rest
Flow
Subject, unknown
Seeing with new eyes
 
Seeing with new eyes
Subject, unknown
Flow
Rest
Midsummer Magic
Endings and Beginnings
Emerging
Strong and True
Keeping the flame alive
Asking for help
Rest
Procrastination
Seeing with new eyes

 


Last opportunity to book your place for "Weaving Shadow and Light"

Rather than giving you a lot of detail here, this month I am simply linking to the information on the website, for this, and the other offerings below. If you still have any questions after reading there, please reply to this email, or use the contact form on the website.Click here
 

Dare to Blossom Monthly Circle on Zoom: Thursday 3rd June (Special) and Saturday 12th June

Click here for details. of the regular Saturday slot. (Contact me for the link for the special Thursday event)

"Be Powerfully Yourself" one to one coaching programme

Click here for details 


Thank you for joining me here this month, any thoughts, feedback, or questions are always welcome.

with love,

Mary