Wednesday, 28 August 2019

September 2019: Deep and slow

Welcome to the Dare to Blossom Newsletter

Reflections: Deep and slow
Events and ways to Dare to Blossom

Reflections: Deep and slow
For the whole of August I have been - I hesitate to say unwell - feeling different to usual. It began with waking one night with an excruciating headache and even when that cleared I felt dizzy or light-headed and with numbness around my lips and face.

You don't need to hear all the details, and as I write to you now I am feeling almost back to my normal self physically. On another level I feel there.have been profound insights.

I wrote these words on 2nd August 


“Yesterday, as I was lying on a hospital bed, about to have a lumbar puncture to double check that I had not had a bleed in the brain, I decided to call on Source, and specifically my connection with the ocean.

I immediately received a wonderful sense of being supported. I heard the sound of the song of the humpback whales, and saw images of them floating in the water between the ocean depths and the surface. So graceful and such huge creatures.
I had my eyes shut and the sun light was streaming through the window so the colour through my eyelids was red/orange. And - I saw a huge whale's eye looking at me with such love and tenderness.”


Interestingly, the day I was at the hospital, there was a humpback whale spotted off the coast of Cornwall, not that far from where I was. This is not uncommon, but rare to get photos and video. Here is a link to the 'Lone Kayaker' blog.

All the tests were negative and I was discharged the same day. Since then I have experienced the side-effects from the lumbar puncture I was warned about, especially terrible headaches (ironic as the doctor said), which are only eased by lying flat. I have been communing with the whales while doing that and received a message: “Deep and slow.”

"Deep and slow" has needed to be my mantra for this month as I have felt the need for lots of rest, and to literally slow down, to do less, to choose carefully. I have done very little writing, although I feel that this experience will be part of my book, a key section in fact. I have been deliberating whether to push ahead and aim for publication in November as I have planned. Or whether to wait a while, take my time, allow the deep and slow process to continue some more.

Deep and slow. Deep and slow. The whales, along with dolphins and porpoises, are often present around our coast here in Cornwall. And yet, they are rarely seen. Knowing the whales are there somewhere in the depths, and knowing how far they travel around the world, is humbling for me. My journey down with the whales has been - and continues to be - a meditation. Another type of magic carpet ride, a visualisation journey. The difference for me in this recent experience has been that the images arose so unexpectedly, from the depths of my subconscious maybe, as I lay there asking for help.



Many of us receive messages when we are out in nature. On that same day, after the procedure had been completed and the doctor had left me to rest in the quiet room, I gazed out of the window. I could see some sky, and trees in the background. In the foreground the building I was in was covered in scaffolding. Around the scaffolding were fluttering several  pairs of butterflies. Red admirals I think, although it was hard to see with the sunlight streaming in the window. I lay and watched their dance for a long time. So beautiful, yet they were simply going about the 'business' of their short lives.

The time when I most needed to rest coincided with a period of bad weather. More recently I have been able to walk on the cliffs again. One of the first times I went out to Porthmisson Bridge, the rock formation near Trevone, close to where I live, the wind was so strong I could hardly stand. It was a joy watching the fulmars wheeling and circling, appearing to be playing in the wind, surfing the strong air currents, showing off their skill and prowess. If you click on the photo below you will be taken to a very short video I managed to take of a fulmar. (If that doesn't work, click here instead.)



I wondered if they had a message for me: "Go with the flow," I heard, "Use the uplift." Adding this to "Deep and slow" feels, for me, like a way forward. A way to regain a different sort of momentum. Sometimes I find goals and action plans useful, essential even. Right now, in this time of rest and reflection, I feel more in a place of allowing. My inner critic calls that procrastination, lack of dedication, laziness. I choose to move beyond that critic.

Right now I am in a place of acceptance of all that is, all that is unfolding. I know, I trust, that my flow of writing for the book will resume when the time is right. In fact the words I have written here for you are part of that. If I allow the process to be deep and slow; if I go with the flow and then use the uplift when it comes; then the finished result will be richer, more rounded, more complete - and may mean more to those who decide to read those words.

There has also been a lot emerging for me about stepping up, into the light - into the spotlight indeed. For that to happen the time needs to be right. This book deserves to be given the right amount of time, and for the literal timing of the launch to be considered. I find it interesting that we use that word, 'launch' for books, and for ships. Another thought now arises: when a ship is launched, she is then taken for fitting out and sea trials. Likewise, I can 'launch' this book in stages too if I wish. It simply has to be 'water tight' first. For me that means that the structure works, is sound, makes sense, has no 'leaks'.

Mmmmm... a lot to ponder on there for me.


For you, suggestions for your journal reflections or meditations:
  • Have you ever received any messages from nature?
  • Do you choose to ask for help, and then listen to the insights you receive?
  • What do the words 'deep and slow' mean for you?
  • 'Go with the flow'?
  • 'Use the uplift'?
Events and ways to Dare to Blossom

Dare to Blossom September Mastermind Circle: Progress.
 During September we are unfurling the 'Progress; petal of the power flower, following the west-pointing arm of the Compass Rose: "West is the land of the setting sun, progressing forward into the night, anticipating the promise of a new day."

It makes no difference at what point you join the process, some people in the group have been here all year (and some for a second year), others have entered in more recently. Each part is connected back through the centre point, through Peace, to every other part.

Contact me if you would like to join us in September, there will be a discount for newsletter subscribers in gratitude for your support.


One-to-one coaching
 : I currently have spaces for three new clients. Whether you have worked with me before or not, you are very welcome to book a complimentary consultation to chat about what your aim would be for enrolling in one of my coaching programmes and how we can make it work for you. Please ask if the regular price is not within your budget right now. I am well aware that just when people would most benefit from coaching may be when they can least afford it. And, it is also true that unless people are committed to investing in themselves: in time, and in money, then maybe that true change they desire may never happen.

Three Card Listenings These are continuing to be popular with people who want a snapshot of insight for themselves. 

Cornwall Workshops: The next event is on Saturday 14th September, from 10 am to 1 pm. This time we will be exploring Progress, this time in person in a beautiful room together at the Blue Lotus Therapy Centre.in Scorrier. September is a beautiful time of year to visit Cornwall, so you could combine joining us at this event with a short break exploring the coastline, beaches, moors, and gardens of this wonderful place. Let me know if I can help suggest where to visit or to stay. You could also combine this with your personal one-to-one Quest Experience with me as your companion and guide.

The Dare to Blossom Quest Experience
: this is the in-depth VIP programme for you to truly step into your power within. The journey begins with a free consultation, where you can find out is this is for you, and book a date. Next we share a one hour video coaching session to explore exactly what you would like to achieve when you join me here in Cornwall on the majestic cliffs to connect with your Compass Rose, your inner guidance system, your wisdom within. On the day itself I will have planned various options according to your wishes and to allow us to adapt to whatever the weather has in store for us. We will travel through the landscape, considering each of the five parts of the Compass Rose. (Read more here, where you can also watch a video by someone who has experienced this for themselves) After your Quest there is another one hour video session to follow up and look at what next for you.

Root and Branch Listenings are available at any time as a one-off, or as a quarterly 'Four Seasons' subscription. If you choose to subscribe,  you will receive your personal Listening four times a year. The next issue will be in September for the Autumn Equinox (or Spring if you are south of the equator)..



Point of Focus Membership
: if you prefer a monthly timescale with Dare to Blossom Cards drawn for you to reflect upon, with the option of adding on one-to-one coaching calls with me, the Point of Focus subscription may be for you. Some people find subscribing to these and the 'Root and Branch Listenings' together a valuable source of support.
 
Thank you dear friends for visiting with me again this month and sharing my musings.

Until next time,

with love,
Mary

Monday, 29 July 2019

August 2019: Appreciation

Welcome to the Dare to Blossom Newsletter

Reflections: Appreciation
Dare to Blossom Art Summer Sale
Events and ways to Dare to Blossom


Reflections: Appreciation
For me, appreciation seems to add even more depth to gratitude. Listing the things I am grateful for is a beautiful practice. When I add exactly why I am grateful for those things, it encourages me to think more deeply. To think about exactly what it is that I appreciate about them.

I appreciate the beauty of these extraordinary flowers. I took the photo at the Eden Project a year or so ago. When I shared it on my Facebook page people told me what they were known as (spider lilies), and some friends have them growing in their gardens in Australia. Knowing these facts and sharing with others, helped me to appreciate them even more deeply.



Appreciating the wonders of nature all around is extremely important to me. In the past, there have been times when I was working in stressful situations, with lots of other pressures in my personal life, not to mention living with chronic pain. I can remember eventually realising that I had stopped even being truly aware of what was around me, let alone appreciating the beauty of what I was seeing. This pattern recurred several times, in different jobs, before I eventually fully received the message and made changes.

Now I am fortunate to be able to choose how I spend my time, and I walk on the cliffs near my home as often as I am able, even if just for ten minutes. The fresh sea air, the sound of the waves, the calling of the sea birds nesting on the cliff ledges, the colours of the different flowers throughout the year, the feel of the rocky ground, and then the springy turf, beneath my feet - I appreciate every moment.




Appreciation is even more powerful when applied to our interactions with people. "Thank you for doing (or being)...." ..has more impact than simply "Thank you". And thanking someone for the particular way in which they did something, even more so. Being precise is of course a well-recognised way of giving feedback, whether in personal or professional situations.

Finally, how often do you appreciate yourself? I was asked this question by a wise friend recently, who suggested I write myself a card and post it to myself. I have written it - I did that straight away - and I decided to leave it a while so I would forget the words of the message to myself. Maybe I will simply hide it amongst my stash of beautiful cards I keep to write for others. Then I will come across it at some time in the future and see it is for me. Or maybe I will post it when I decide the time is right.


For you, suggestions for your journal reflections or meditations:
  • What does 'appreciation' mean to you? 
  • Choose to appreciate everyone and everything around you. Write about what things come to your appreciative attention right now. What can you see right under your nose?
  • Write cards for friends and family telling them what you appreciate about them.
  • Write one for a work colleague or your boss.
  • Write one for yourself.

Dare to Blossom Art Summer Sale

Many of you are familiar with the encaustic art (wax painting) that I enjoy creating. I have just announced a summer sale, which runs until 28th August. The offer is 20% reduction on the original mounted or framed paintings. If anything catches your eye, contact me before buying to receive the discount as I have not changed the prices on the website. Also, if you are outside the UK, I will need to check postage costs for you. Click on the image below to view the gallery.



Events and ways to Dare to Blossom

Dare to Blossom Taster Circle
 On 9th August at 10.00 am UK time there is a chance to experience the magic of a live Zoom call with a small group. The link takes you to the Facebook event, if you prefer not to use that, simply reply to this email and ask me to send you the link.
Dare to Blossom September Mastermind Circle: Progress.
 During September we are unfurling the 'Progress; petal of the power flower, following the west-pointing arm of the Compass Rose: "West is the land of the setting sun, progressing forward into the night, anticipating the promise of a new day."

It makes no difference at what point you join the process, some people in the group have been here all year (and some for a second year), others have entered in more recently. Each part is connected back through the centre point, through Peace, to every other part.

Contact me if you would like to join us in September, there will be a discount for newsletter subscribers in gratitude for your support.


One-to-one coaching
 : I currently have spaces for two new clients. Whether you have worked with me before or not, you are very welcome to book a complimentary consultation to chat about what your aim would be for enrolling in one of my coaching programmes and how we can make it work for you. Please ask if the regular price is not within your budget right now. I am well aware that just when people would most benefit from coaching may be when they can least afford it. And, it is also true that unless people are committed to investing in themselves: in time, and in money, then maybe that true change they desire may never happen.

Three Card Listenings These are continuing to be popular with people who want a snapshot of insight for themselves. 

Cornwall Workshops: The next event is on Saturday 14th September, from 10 am to 1 pm. This time we will be exploring Progress, this time in person in a beautiful room together at the Blue Lotus Therapy Centre.in Scorrier. September is a beautiful time of year to visit Cornwall, so you could combine joining us at this event with a short break exploring the coastline, beaches, moors, and gardens of this wonderful place. Let me know if I can help suggest where to visit or to stay. You could also combine this with your personal one-to-one Quest Experience with me as your companion and guide.

The Dare to Blossom Quest Experience
: this is the in-depth VIP programme for you to truly step into your power within. The journey begins with a free consultation, where you can find out is this is for you, and book a date. Next we share a one hour video coaching session to explore exactly what you would like to achieve when you join me here in Cornwall on the majestic cliffs to connect with your Compass Rose, your inner guidance system, your wisdom within. On the day itself I will have planned various options according to your wishes and to allow us to adapt to whatever the weather has in store for us. We will travel through the landscape, considering each of the five parts of the Compass Rose. (Read more here, where you can also watch a video by someone who has experienced this for themselves) After your Quest there is another one hour video session to follow up and look at what next for you.

Root and Branch Listenings are available at any time as a one-off, or as a quarterly 'Four Seasons' subscription. If you choose to subscribe,  you will receive your personal Listening four times a year. The next issue will be in September for the Autumn Equinox (or Spring if you are south of the equator)..



Point of Focus Membership
: if you prefer a monthly timescale with Dare to Blossom Cards drawn for you to reflect upon, with the option of adding on one-to-one coaching calls with me, the Point of Focus subscription may be for you. Some people find subscribing to these and the 'Root and Branch Listenings' together a valuable source of support.
 
Thank you dear friends for visiting with me again this month and sharing my musings.

Until next time,

with love,
Mary

Wednesday, 3 July 2019

July 2019 Adventure

Welcome to the Dare to Blossom Newsletter

July Dare to Blossom Mastermind Group: time-sensitive
Reflections: Adventure

Events and ways to Dare to Blossom

Time-sensitive July Dare to Blossom Mastermind Group

Once again, I am putting this first just in case it is of interest to you, as the group opens on 1st July, and there are just two spaces available.


Dare to Blossom July Circle: Power 
The flow through the year following the Compass Rose brings us to the South pointing petal of the Power Flower, the south point of your Compass. In the words of the poem:

"South is the source of nature's powers: the flowing rivers, the rising tides, the ever-changing oceans. The wind that shapes the land. The power that is arising in you."

The group is already gathering and we begin with the first group call on Zoom on 10.00 am UK time on Friday 5th July. Registration is open until Monday 1st July, so there is still time to join us. There is a discount for newsletter subscribers, and you can participate through the Zoom calls and emails if you prefer not to use Facebook.



There are now two spaces not yet taken, maybe one of them is for you? It matters not at all where in the year you join the process for the first time, or even if you drop in for one Circle and come back later whenever you feel the time is again right for you. Contact me if you would like to know more.

Reflections: Adventure


Right now I am in the middle of finalising arrangements for a big adventure, my first visit to New Zealand since 2006, and the first travelling by myself since 1976. A chance to spend time with all the people in my family who live there.

Lots of arrangements to make and decisions to take. The array of choices on-line can be totally discombobulating for me. (ha! I love that word 'discombobulating', and so rarely get to use it!). Luckily I recently met a travel expert at a local networking event where she was the guest speaker, so I have been working with her to simplify it for me and get the best deal possible. The flights are now booked, with just a few details to slot into place later.

Now I can relax and enjoy the anticipation of my adventure, which will begin in November, just after the last workshop of the year here in Cornwall, on 17th.



What does adventure mean to you? New places, new people, new sights and sounds? New experiences?

All of those for me. At the same time, I experience many adventures much closer to home, walking on the cliffs and beaches, in the woods, by the streams, here in Cornwall. I always return with many photographs, and sometimes with treasures, such as this flight feather from a large buzzard, probably a female.
 

There is something about the soaring buzzard that always calls to me. Flying high above the landscape, with extraordinary eyesight. Gaining that higher perspective. Apparently they usually only travel around 100 km, but some are known to migrate.

For me, travel is always an opportunity to see with new eyes. Whether it is a short journey here at home, or a trip to the other side of the world, that opportunity is ripe with gifts and new experiences.

Truly an adventure.


For you, suggestions for your journal reflections or meditations:
  • What does 'adventure' mean to you? You could explore with some lists, adventures in your own home itself. Adventures close by. Adventures in travelling further afield. Pick one adventure to embark on today.
  • Choose to look at the world around you with new eyes. What do you see? Flow-write, doodle or paint what it brings for you.

Events and ways to Dare to Blossom

As well as the Dare to Blossom Circle for July that features above, here are other ways to connect and dare to blossom for yourself. One-to-one coaching : I currently have spaces for two new clients. Whether you have worked with me before or not, you are very welcome to book a complimentary consultation to chat about what your aim would be for enrolling in one of my coaching programmes and how we can make it work for you. Please ask if the regular price is not within your budget right now. I am well aware that just when people would most benefit from coaching may be when they can least afford it. And, it is also true that unless people are committed to investing in themselves: in time, and in money, then maybe that true change they desire may never happen.

Three Card Listenings These are continuing to be popular with people who want a snapshot of insight for themselves. 

Cornwall Workshops: The next event is on Saturday 6th July, from 10 am to 1 pm. This time we will be exploring Power.

Root and Branch Listenings are available at any time as a one-off, or as a quarterly 'Four Seasons' subscription. If you choose to subscribe,  you will receive your personal Listening four times a year. The next issue will be in September for the Autumn Equinox (or Spring if you are south of the equator)..



Point of Focus Membership
: if you prefer a monthly timescale with Dare to Blossom Cards drawn for you to reflect upon, with the option of adding on one-to-one coaching calls with me, the Point of Focus subscription may be for you. Some people find subscribing to these and the 'Root and Branch Listenings' together a valuable source of support.
 
Thank you dear friends for visiting with me again this month and sharing my musings.

Until next time,

with love,
Mary

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Thursday, 30 May 2019

June 2019 Subject, unknown

June Dare to Blossom Mastermind Group: time-sensitive
Reflections: Subject, unknown

Early summer in Cornwall
Events and ways to Dare to Blossom

Time-sensitive June Dare to Blossom Mastermind Group

I am putting this first just in case it is of interest to you, as the group opens on 31st May, and new registrations for June close on 3rd June. The regular events slot is towards the end of the newsletter as usual.


Dare to Blossom Mastermind Group June 
The flow through the year following the Compass Rose brings us to the East pointing petal of the Power Flower in June. In the words of the poem: "From the East comes the rising sun: passion, potential." The group is already gathering and we begin with the first group call on Zoom on 10.00 am UK time on 31st May. Registration is open until Monday 3rd June, so there is still time to join us.



There are now two spaces not yet taken, maybe one of them is for you? It matters not at all where in the year you join the process for the first time, or even if you drop in for one Circle and come back later whenever you feel the time is again right for you. Contact me if you would like to know more.

Reflections: Subject, unknown


When I began this piece for this newsletter, for June 2019, I had no idea what to write about. Hence the title of these reflections "Subject, unknown."

Doesn't that just describe life? Life is an unknown. We may think we are in control, but 'life is what happens to you when you are busy making other plans' (John Lennon) And yet, somehow we learn to navigate the uncertainty, the unknown.



My thoughts move on, to navigation, and the words I have written for the book I am working on. A fresh start to writing, and new inspiration, emerged recently. This is the word picture I drew:


 "How to navigate this book: a map of the magic garden you are about to enter

1: Enter in and find your Compass Rose

This book is in a way all about navigation, how to find our way through the ebbs and flows, the twists and turns of our own lives. The concept of the Compass Rose has proved so powerful, for me and for others I have worked with, in that sense of a guidance system for us to find our way home to ourselves.

The process is circular, and spirals at the same time, a reality that I find hard to contain within the covers of a book. We tend, as a rule, to read books from start to finish. Not always, some books, poetry for example, are designed to be dipped into wherever the inclination takes us. Some of you, like me, may open a book from the back- (although I try to resist that with a novel as that may spoil the author’s carefully crafted plot).

This book can be seen as a landscape, maybe the magic garden that I describe in the guided visualisations I use one to one and in groups to launch us out onto our magic carpet rides of rediscovery.

Picture the scene if you will: you have just strolled along a country lane, with the breeze blowing gently in the tree tops around you, the sun just perfectly warm on your face, the ground soft beneath your feet, the birds singing.

You have enjoyed observing how the ancient stone wall enclosing your garden appears to you today. The size and shape of the stones. Their colour, their texture when you reach out and touch them, the nooks and crannies between the stones that may contain a tiny plant.

You arrive at your personal doorway into the garden and enjoy how that looks today. The size, design, colour, texture of your door. You lift the latch or turn the handle, open the door and step inside your secret, magical garden. You close the door behind you, knowing it is here awaiting you whenever you wish to return.

You turn to see the garden spread in front of you. You stroll through the flower beds filled with blooms from all parts of the world, all seasons of the year, inside this magic garden. You enjoy their colours, smell their perfume, maybe reach on and touch the velvety texture of some of the petals. You hear the bees buzzing around the flowers all around you as you walk.

And then, on this particular visit, you realise that you are seeing a representation of the structure of this book: right in the centre of the garden is a giant compass rose, a big flower symbolically laid out on the ground. The centre point is Peace, the north petal is Purpose, east is Passion, south is Power, and west is Progress.

There are seats in each space, and also all around the garden, where you can sit and reflect. You choose one of the seats, against a warm brick wall, and see that right beside you, growing along the wall is a peach tree. There is a ripe peach right there, just by your hand ready for you to pick and eat as you reflect.

2: Your Magic Carpet

As you do that you look over in the distance towards the other side of the garden and see the grassy, green lawn that you may be familiar with from the guided visualisations. In the centre of the lawn is an ancient tree, a big spreading tree, with branches reaching out wide to either side.

You know that here is where you will find your Magic Carpet. Sometimes it is spread out ready for you on the ground; sometimes rolled up and leaning against the trunk of the tree; and sometimes your carpet is playing trickster with you. Teasing you, playing hide and seek.

You may like to take a Magic Carpet Ride now. If so, when you find your carpet – if you do, sit down. (And, if you do not, that is fine too, your journeying will simply be in another form this time) Feel the texture: is it silky or woollen, rough or smooth? What colours do you see? What patterns are woven within your carpet? Maybe some of the words from the Dare to Blossom Rediscovery Cards if you have been working with those (or any other cards or sources of insight). Maybe another design altogether.

Is there some food and drink for your journey? Is there an object there for you to take with you? Maybe a book, a crystal, a feather, a flower. Do you have a companion on your journey? A bird, an animal, a person, or maybe a spirit guide who will be travelling with you today.

Whenever you are ready, ask your magic carpet to lift off, to rise up above the garden and to take you wherever you need to travel today. It may be low down over the landscape; or out across the oceans; or maybe up around the moon and off to the stars.

If you have participated in this process with me, either through a recording or live, you will know that I leave you travelling for a while before calling you back, reminding you to take your time to say farewell to all you have met. To receive and gifts or messages you have been given, and to leave anything you would like to give to them, and to know you can return and visit here again whenever you wish.
I usually suggest that people write in their journals before speaking (or maybe in this case before reading more here) to record the parts of their journey they wish to remember before it fades. [There will be a link to a recorded Magic Carpet Ride visualisation for you to enjoy here]

3: The Travellers’ Tales Circle

The Magic Carpet Ride has all taken place in that corner of the garden on the green grassy lawn, under the old spreading tree. If you are still sitting on your seat in the sunshine, against the warm brick wall, eating your perfectly ripe, juicy peach, you may now notice that over in the distance there is another part of the garden. It is difficult to see precisely what is there, there appears to be a sparkling haze obscuring your view.

You may decide to walk in that direction. You pop your peach stone into the ground beside the bench, knowing that in this magical garden it will soon grow to produce more peaches. If your hands feel sticky you shake them in the air and find they suddenly feel perfectly clean as if washed in a mountain stream and dried in a warm breeze.

You stroll over towards the sparkling haze. As you approach you hear voices, and laughter, and silence, all seemingly at once. This is the Traveller’s Circle. This is where those of us who choose to take these journeys through, or rather outside, space and time, are invited to gather to share our tales, our experiences of strange lands and extraordinary creatures. Our experiences of meeting loved ones again, of dancing through the ether and of receiving practical insights and messages.

At the end of this book I offer a selection of these Travellers’ Tales: some are my own, some are from people who have spent time with me on these journeys over the last few years. Some of the experiences cannot be shared here because there are no words: each of us will be given a range of different experiences. Some people drop into a deep sleep, or it may be that they journey but choose not to remember, this is often a profoundly healing experience.

As with all this work, there are no right or wrong ways of doing any of it – simply your way, your way on this day. And then the next, which may be quite different, and then the next.

Do you have a map now in your mind’s eye? A map of your private garden inside that ancient stone wall? Your landscape will change and evolve. It may grow to include the ocean and beaches; rivers and forests; rolling plains and deserts; townscapes and wilderness.
In summary, these components are offered here in this book, a book that is trying its best to be an adequate container to deliver magic to you. To somehow hold this landscape of dreams and mythology, of folklore and science fiction, of your inner wisdom and your magical guides.
  1. Your Compass Rose: the voice of your inner wisdom, offering to guide you around the rose, the flower, in spirals of increasing awareness and joy.
  2. Your Magic Carpet: using the visualisation process I have described, or any other that works for you – taking regular meditative journeys is a powerful source of insight and guidance.
  3. The Travellers’ Tales Circle: drop in and read one or two of the stories here, leave behind your own process for a while and enjoy the words of another.
  4. The fourth component is the Dare to Blossom Rediscovery Cards, they do not have a physical place in our map of the garden, they are wherever you need them to be. If you do not already have your own pack and would like one, simply order via my website or contact me. These were the starting point for me of the emergence of this journey and have become valuable companions for many people around the world.
A note on keeping yourself safe: these exercises and processes can be profoundly powerful. It is for you to judge how your mental health is as you embark on these journeys. Life coaching, even with this spiritual approach that has emerged for me through my own practice, is not a therapy, though it can often be therapeutic. Make sure you have support around you should you need it.

Allow yourself a quiet safe space and time to work with the exercises where you won’t be disturbed if possible. I know we don’t live in an ideal world, but there are things you can do: switch off or unplug your phone; ask your family not to disturb you; or go out somewhere in nature where it is quiet.

Another suggestion is to work through this book with a buddy. [here there will be a link to the private Facebook group for readers]

Sometimes the best strategy is to simply dive in and have a go. Many of my Magic Carpet Journal entries have places where my journeying was interrupted, and I have returned to it later. In fact, sometimes, I am told to leave it and come back another time.

Whenever you wish, as you read through this book, and especially when you are actively working through the process yourself, you may like to dip into the Travellers’ Tales in the section at the end. Perhaps choose one at random. You will see how different they all are. Some are profound and bring deep insights, practical suggestions or connection with loved ones. Others are more abstract, and it can be hard to tell the tale of these in words.

Are you ready? Shall we begin? Let’s start in our centre point, in Peace."


If you are a visual person I would love to see how you would represent this word picture as an illustration. Currently one person is thinking about this for me, and I would love to receive several ideas - they may be used for the cover, or within the book.

If you are more of a 'word' person, you may be able to help with the title, at the moment I am thinking of "The Pathway to Your Power", subtitle: "Rediscover your inner wisdom, activate your power within." What do you think? Does that work for you? Maybe next month I will have a draft cover description to share with you.
And, if you have travelled on any 'magic carpet rides' with me, and would like to share a story to be featured in the 'Travellers' Tales' chapter (and maybe some will be scattered through the book also), I would love to hear from you. You will be able to choose if you would like to have a link in the book to your website if you are in business, or you can of course be anonymous.

Early summer in Cornwall

As usual, our weather is variable, to say the least. Fog, rain, gales, glorious sunshine. Sometimes all of those in one day. Yesterday was one of those days: It began with mist, drizzle and then quite heavy rain. By lunchtime the clouds had cleared and the air was sparkling and fresh, so decided to walk on the cliffs. When I got there, I realised that the wind was blowing strongly, helping to blow the clouds away, and making it very cool. In fact the wind was so strong it nearly blew me off my feet at one pint.

I was able to find a slightly sheltered spot to sit for a while and simply enjoy watching the sea, and the sea birds wheeling and calling around the cliffs where they are nesting.




Events and ways to Dare to Blossom

As well as the Dare to Blossom Mastermind Group June that features above, here are other ways to connect with my dare to blossom work.
One-to-one coaching : I currently have spaces for two new clients. Whether you have worked with me before or not, you are very welcome to book a complimentary consultation to chat about what your aim would be for enrolling in one of my coaching programmes and how we can make it work for you. Please ask if the regular price is not within your budget right now. I am well aware that just when people would most benefit from coaching may be when they can least afford it. And, it is also true that unless people are committed to investing in themselves: in time, and in money, then maybe that true change they desire may never happen.

Three Card Listenings These are continuing to be popular with people who want a snapshot of insight for themselves. 

Cornwall Workshops: The next event is on Saturday 6th July, from 10 am to 1 pm. This time we will be exploring Power.

Root and Branch Listenings are available at any time as a one-off, or as a quarterly 'Four Seasons' subscription. If you choose to subscribe,  you will receive your personal Listening four times a year. The next issue will be in June for the Summer Solstice.



Point of Focus Membership
: if you prefer a monthly timescale with Dare to Blossom Cards drawn for you to reflect upon, with the option of adding on one-to-one coaching calls with me, the Point of Focus subscription may be for you. Some people find subscribing to these and the 'Root and Branch Listenings' together a valuable source of support.
 
Thank you dear friends for visiting with me again this month and sharing my musings.

Until next time,

with love,
Mary


Saturday, 27 April 2019

May 2019 Presence

Welcome to the Dare to Blossom Newsletter


Reflections: Presence
Interview: with Jo Dodds, on the Power to Live More Podcast
Book recommendations

Events and ways to Dare to Blossom


Reflections: Presence

Being present, being in the moment, simply being - these are all ways in which I focus in order to feel I am truly connecting with my life, and with the people around me in each moment. As the saying goes, the past has gone, the future may never come, all we have is this, this moment.

In a recent coaching session with Amy Palko, part of the conversation was about purpose. I work with this concept with many of my own coaching clients, and with people in the groups I support. I often say, to them and to myself, what if my purpose is simply to be, to be me?

Amy suggested looking at purpose as 'presence'. Reflecting on this, a memory returned from when I was young. At one time I somehow believed that when I was not physically visible to people they would forget me. Maybe many children experience this? Maybe that is part of what 'attention-seeking' could be about, a need to be seen, to be reassured they are not forgotten by their parents?

I think I soon learned that my parents wouldn't forget me, yet the feeling persisted later in life, when I would be surprised when someone I had met once remembered me. As an illustration of how the opposite can be true, last year I was told by an ex-colleague that she found it hard to believe we hadn't seen each other for two years, 'when you seem such a strong presence.' That comment had a big impact on me, helping me to realise that my actions, my words, and simply being myself, can all have ripple effects that I will usually never know.

On a different, but relevant theme, marketing advice speaks of presence, as in 'social media presence'. In business terms I find this hard to judge, am I bombarding people with information or messages? Do my offerings slip from your mind in the plethora of other good things you may be presented with every day? And, how does this sort of presence translate into generating an income that will allow me to keep on supporting others?

Returning from these musings to the thought of my purpose being presence - the image of a lighthouse comes into my mind. Such a powerful metaphor, one that naturally arises often in coaching calls. A lighthouse doesn't run around the island trying to help everyone in many different ways. It's purpose is simply to be present, to be visible, to shine it's light to guide seafarers away from the danger of the rocks it stands on. To be consistent. To be reliable.



This is Trevose Head Lighthouse, on the North Cornwall coast, near where I live. The photo was taken on Easter Monday when I set out early and went for a long walk from the National Trust car park here at the headland to Treyarnon Bay and back. As many of you know, I love walking the cliffs and in the countryside. Walking to me is a type of meditation, when I am by myself, and sometimes with others when we walk in companionable silence.

The same week I took a walk in the bluebell woods, along the River Fowey from Respryn Bridge and up into the woods on the Lanhydrock estate.




I felt immersed in that glorious blue of the flowers, almost purple when they are 'en mass' like this And, individually they are stunning as well

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For you, some suggestions for your meditations or journal:
- what does 'presence' mean to you?.
- how are you able to be present in your life, in each moment?.


Interview: with Jo Dodds, on the Power to Live More Podcast
I recently enjoyed a conversation with Jo Dodds, of The Power to Live More, here is a link to the podcast, on the theme of listening to our inner selves (what I call our inner wisdom)
Book recommendations
I have two books to recommend this month, after not doing this for a while. If you would like to offer a review of a book you have enjoyed to be featured here, I would love to hear from you.

Nick Williams: Be Inspired. Be Inspiring. Be Yourself. Your power to draw the best out of yourself and others.

I have read many of Nick's books, beginning with his first (The Work You Were Born to Do) many years ago. His latest (the 16th, I think) is readable and full of thought-provoking ideas and practical exercises. I am just finishing my first read through, and my copy is festooned with bookmarks showing passages I intend to return to and work on in my journal. I am not yet ready to write a review as such, I can simply highly recommend this if it appeals to you. You can find out much more about the book and download a sample chapter on Nick's website here, where you can also order a copy direct.

Rose Diamond: Whole Mind - Whole World. The power of Wise Choices Creating a Future that Works for All

This book is published on Amazon on 1st May, as a Kindle e-book, and for the first ten days it will be available at 99p. Later it will be available in printed format. I can't send you a link as it hasn't been published yet. Here is the review I have written after reading a preview copy as one of the 'launch team' supporting Rose. I am looking forward to reading a print version as I always enjoy that more than reading on the screen, convenient as that can be.


"This is a book full of impact and of insights for the reader. For me, that means it takes a while to read as I like to pause and reflect. The author encourages this, offering many prompts for ‘inquiry’ throughout the book. Her own story – an extraordinary one of inner and outer journeys – is interwoven with conversations with others, and with teaching to help the reader benefit from her discoveries."


Events and ways to Dare to Blossom

Dare to Blossom Mastermind Group June The flow through the year following the Compass Rose brings us to the East pointing petal of the Power Flower in June. In the words of the poem: "From the East comes the rising sun: passion, potential."



There are three spaces not yet taken, maybe one of them is for you? It matters not at all where in the year you join the process for the first time, or even if you drop in for one Circle and come back later whenever you feel the time is again right for you. Contact me if you would like to know more. There is also a free taster call on Zoom at 10.00 am (UK time) on Friday 10th May - again contact me for details of that if you would like to join us and experience the gently powerful process for yourself before you decide. If you are a Facebook person you can link to the event here.

One-to-one coaching : I currently have spaces for four new clients. Whether you have worked with me before or not, you are very welcome to book a complimentary consultation to chat about what your aim would be for enrolling in one of my coaching programmes and how we can make it work for you. Please ask if the regular price is not within your budget right now. I am well aware that just when people would most benefit from coaching may be when they can least afford it. And, it is also true that unless people are committed to investing in themselves: in time, and in money, then maybe that true change they desire may never happen.

Three Card Listenings These are continuing to be popular with people who want a snapshot of insight for themselves. 

Cornwall Workshops: The next event is on Saturday 11th May, from 10 am to 1 pm. This time we will be exploring Passion.

Root and Branch Listenings are available at any time as a one-off, or as a quarterly 'Four Seasons' subscription. If you choose to subscribe,  you will receive your personal Listening four times a year. The next issue will be in June for the Summer Solstice, or you can still book a spring Listening now.



Point of Focus Membership: if you prefer a monthly timescale with Dare to Blossom Cards drawn for you to reflect upon, with the option of adding on one-to-one coaching calls with me, the Point of Focus subscription may be for you. Some people find subscribing to these and the 'Root and Branch Listenings' together a valuable source of support.

Thank you dear friends for visiting with me again this month and sharing my musings.

Until next time,

with love,
Mary

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Sunday, 31 March 2019

April 2019: Celebration

Welcome to the Dare to Blossom Newsletter


Reflections: Celebration
Last Call for the April Dare to Blossom Mastermind Circle: Purpose
Events and ways to Dare to Blossom


Reflections: Celebration

There are lots of things to celebrate in my life. This last week I have been enjoying the arrival of spring here in Cornwall. After what seemed like weeks of grey, cold weather with rain and gales, the sun has been shining. The air has been cold, with frost at night in some areas, and the sun pleasantly warm during the day. The wild flowers on the cliffs are beginning to blossom - the white bladder campion, and just a few of the pink of the thrift that will soon be in full glorious bloom.



The birds are singing their hearts out in our garden, and the buzzards are calling as they wheel overhead in the blue sky. On the cliffs the sky larks are serenading, and the seabirds are nesting.  The blackthorn has been lighting up the hedgerows for a while and now i is joined by green leaves on the smaller trees.

The sea is blue and calm, with the tidelines snaking across the bay like shot silk. Down low near the water I think I saw a puffin flying today, though the cliffs are too high here to see it clearly without binoculars.


Yesterday was the 'grand gala ceremony' for the Venus Awards Devon and Cornwall, and as some of you know, I was one of three finalists in the Lifetime Achievement Category. . I planned a lovely day ahead of the big evening event at St Mellion Golf Course and Hotel, near Saltash, on the border between Cornwall and Devon (just in Cornwall, in fact).

After a leisurely start, I visited Lanhydrock House and Gardens, a National Trust property. I. enjoyed a beautiful walk: the huge magnolia trees are in full bloom as are the rhododendrons and camellias.  I treated myself to lunch at the cafe there, and found a relatively quiet bench to sit in the spring sunshine for a while out of the cool breeze. Even though it was understandably busy with other people visiting at this time of year it was peaceful and restorative for me
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Then I travelled on so I could check in to the hotel early and relax before getting ready for the photos before the event, which were scheduled for 6 pm.

Naturally I hoped to be telling you I was the winner of the Award - I was not. And yet, I have been celebrating ever since I was nominated back in November last year. That is the true prize, knowing that I have had such an impact on someone's life that they took time and trouble to fill out a form to nominate me. They did so anonymously so I do not know who that person was. I do have an idea, but she is not saying, so I may be wrong.

I wrote these reflections this morning soon after I arrived home after my overnight stay.


"Back home from the Venus Awards and beginning to enjoy some quiet time to reflect (with my cat Evie on my lap  ) After so much noise, music, bright lights, cameras, applause, conversation, excitement, plus that mixture of disappointment and pride that two out of three of we finalists were feeling - what next?
What is ‘Lifetime Achievement’? For me it is made up of lots of little quiet things. If I had had the chance to stand on that stage and speak, I was planning to refer to my interview with Siobhan A Riordan for Silver Tent TV. ‘The Powerful Voice of the Quiet Ones’.
As I unpacked my ‘powerful purple’ outfit, I noticed for the first time how similar the colours are to the cover I chose for my first book, ‘Flying in the Face of Fear’, published in 1998. At the time, I just knew it had to be that colour, the publisher, Melissa Hardie of the Patten Press was quite surprised I think.
I need to reflect further before I find out where that thought is taking me....
My next book is about power, that quiet power within (rather than ‘power over’) - and I feel I will soon be returning to some new writing."

Here is one of the photos taken at the beginning of the event, by the talented Poppy Jakes (here is her website if you are anywhere in the south of England and need the services of an excellent photographer). And one that I took when I came home, of my dress with the book Flying in the Face of Fear.



It is interesting to me that those reflections took me back to my first writing, which was prompted by what was an awful experience, a diagnosis and treatment for cancer, but I was able to use to help both myself and others.


 
For you, some suggestions for your meditations or journal:
- how do you celebrate?.
- what do you choose to celebrate?.
- do you wait until something 'big' happens, or do you choose to celebrate the little highlight every day?
(If I had waited to celebrate until I won that award, I would still be waiting, why not choose to enjoy the feeling now?)



Last Call for the April Dare to Blossom Mastermind Circle: Purpose

In the words of my meditation poem
"Compass Rose Speaks":

"Look up, look North. To your guiding star, your purpose."
We begin on 1st April, and people can still join within the first week - so I am sharing this here in case this resonates with you today. Our theme this month will be Purpose. Do you have one? Do you need one? Is simply 'being' purpose enough?

We will explore these questions and many more. We have space for three more people to join us - is one of those yours?
Reply to this email if you feel called to join us, or if you are simply curious to know more. There are more details in this email, and on the website 
When you join you will be invited in to the private Facebook group. If you prefer not to use Facebook you are very welcome to take part, I will email you the prompts and exercises. The weekly group calls take place on Zoom video-conferencing, totally separate to any social media channel.
However you choose to participate, you will receive information about the flow of the Circle through the weeks and through the month; the links for our weekly group gatherings live on Zoom; and (in the Facebook group, if not, then by email) your own personal Magic Carpet space. That is where you will see me post photos of the cards I draw from the Rediscovery Cards each week for you (even if you are not able to join us live), and we can each share our thoughts and support each other.
Contact me to book your place, or to chat on Zoom to find out if this is right for you. It could be just what you are looking for, why miss the chance?
Events and ways to Dare to Blossom
One-to-one coaching : I currently have spaces for four new clients. Whether you have worked with me before or not, you are very welcome to book a complimentary consultation to chat about what your aim would be for enrolling in one of my coaching programmes and how we can make it work for you. Although the special offer ends on 31st March, please ask if the regular price is not within your budget right now. I am well aware that just when people would most benefit from coaching may be when they can least afford it. And, it is also true that unless people are committed to investing in themselves: in time, and in money, then maybe that true change they desire may never happen.

Three Card Listenings These are continuing to be popular with people who want a snapshot of insight for themselves.

Cornwall Workshops: The next event is on Saturday 11th May, from 10 am to 1 pm. This time we will be exploring Passion.

Root and Branch Listenings are available at any time as a one-off, or as a quarterly 'Four Seasons' subscription. If you choose to subscribe,  you will receive your personal Listening four times a year. The next issue will be in June for the Summer Solstice, or you can still book a spring Listening now.



Point of Focus Membership
: if you prefer a monthly timescale with Dare to Blossom Cards drawn for you to reflect upon, with the option of adding on one-to-one coaching calls with me, the Point of Focus subscription may be for you. Some people find subscribing to these and the 'Root and Branch Listenings' together a valuable source of support.
 
Thank you dear friends for visiting with me again this month and sharing my musings.

Until next time,

with love,
Mary