Friday, 28 July 2017

August 2017 Stepping into Power

Hello dear friends,

This is arriving early for August, the rainy weather here in Cornwall means I have had plenty of time in my office, plus there are a number of time-limited offers here, and advance notice of a revamp and change in pricing in September.

A variation in format for you this month - for those of you who also follow my posts on Facebook these photos may be familiar. However, I know many of you here choose not to be involved in social media, so I thought I would give you a taste of one of my walks. 

Welcome to some reflections on a walking meditation on the cliffs

Recently I have been working with several of my professional 'support team' - coaches and specialists of various sorts. My aim is to become more clear about the offerings I put out in the world, to enable people like you to understand what they could do for you, the difference Dare to Blossom can make to your life. And, if not of interest to you, to enable you to suggest them to people you know.

As is often the case, my coaches remind me of things I already know. This principle - which I often explain to others, is that it is impossible to see what is right under your nose. Physically - (try it) - and metaphorically, it is necessary to use a mirror. My mirror is the people I choose to work with, who, like the expert coaches they are, reflect back to me the things I cannot see, and provide a sounding board.

So, last night I drew up a Point of Focus Report for myself (click the link to find out more). This begins with three Rediscovery Cards, here are mine:

Thinking through my plans to restructure the coaching service I offer, under the working title 'Stepping into Your Power', these words  make perfect sense, and made me laugh.

Adventure: part of the new programme will be a full or half day quest, taking place outdoors on the cliffs and beaches I know and love so well. Literally stepping through a journey together with me as your companion and guide. This will be the top level of the service, a very special one-to-one opportunity.

Emerging: my ideas are emerging, and so too am I - emerging more into the world with confidence, daring to blossom indeed. The well-known quote from Lao Tzu "A journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step." is inspiring me in this.

Beauty: the beauty of the natural world around me is a central part of my life and my work.

Today, I took a walk on those cliffs I love so much, a place I often go to reflect, re-centre and gain inspiration. It was cloudy but very warm. Here is a photographic record of the things I saw along my way:

This is the view where I park my car and change into my walking shoes. The barley in the field is just turning golden, the skylarks are singing. Today the sky is shades of slate blue and silver grey. The island in the background is called Gulland.

As I walk down the track towards the cliffs, alongside another ripening field of barley, this is the view, across Harlyn Bay to Trevose Head.

As I get to the gate onto the coastal path I look across to Tregudda Gorge and the rock stack in the distance. Today I decided to frame it with the old gateposts - a metaphor for entering in, passing through the gateway into stepping into power.

Then I turn left and walk along the clifftop, down to the rugged point where I always stop, the rocks covered with orange lichen. On the way I admire the view across Trevone Bay with the surf rolling in. The dark slash in the turf of the field is the huge 'Round Hole', caused by the undermining of the ground by the sea eroding the rocks beneath.

The first place I stop has the view back up the coast, towards Tregudda Gorge again, with the rock arches known as Porthmissen Bridge in the foreground. There are rock ledges here where many species of seabirds nest - herring gulls, fulmars, kittiwakes - these last with their haunting call of 'kitty-wake, kitty-wake.' The swell is crashing on the rocks below and up the cliffs in the distance in a spray of white foam.

As I sit here, I hear a noise very close by and look up to see a gull right in front of me. He or she is looking at me and making a chattering noise - not the loud cry but almost a chirp - sounding as if s/he is talking to me.

I climb around the front of the rocks to see the view towards the west.

Then I walk back around the rocks to the grassy spot where I used to sit with my mother, and where my brother and I  would play as young children when we lived nearby. I look up at the sky - the sun is beginning to emerge from the clouds.

With my new phone I am finally able to take selfies (though not entirely sure if that is a good thing...) I hope to use Facebook Live from the cliffs but there is no service here, so for now here is a simple photo.

I sit a while there and think about the stepping into power process and how I can use the Power Flower and the words - Peace, Purpose, Passion, Power and Progress - to form the steps that people will take in their quest - whether online or in person, here on the cliffs. I had set off that morning having drawn my card of the day - Belief, a soft blue shade echoing the shades in the sea. Exploring my belief that this can work, it can help those who are drawn to the process to take real steps, to make real progress forward in their lives.

(It was only when I got home that I found that in my haste earlier, I had posted the wrong photo - Peace, also a blue colour. I laughed at that as Peace is the centre point, and the starting point in the Power Flower. A process of grounding and establishing firm roots - and Peace was exactly what I had been experiencing in my walking meditation.)

So I turn back, up the cliff, towards my starting point. The view from the top is always one I stop and enjoy.

Then, I pass the gateway I showed you earlier and walk round to my other favourite place, the other side of Porthmissen Bridge, where I find my seat on the fragrant turf. The smell of the wind on the cliffs is hard to describe - a mix of hay, flowers, sea air.....

Here is the view below my feet, the archway with two caves going right through the rocks, where the tide rushes in and out when it is high. The patterns in the rock look like the bones of an ancient animal to me, or the ribs of the land herself.

Slightly to the right I can see the waves breaking on the rocks below me. Then I notice this tiny burrow in the grass - I wonder what little creature made this, a vole maybe?

Further to my right again I look out across the sea to Gulland Island....

I sit here for a long time, not really thinking. Meditating, asking for guidance for how to explore and develop a way of offering this to you. I don't write anything, even though my little notebook is in my bag as always. Absorbing, being part of nature and the land.

When I finally set off home I stop to look back at Porthmissen Bridge from another angle and take these two photos: 

Turning, I say my goodbyes for today, and walk back along the track to my car.

The walking meditation described above took place last week. A few days later, on another walk in the same spot I took some of my 'tools' with me. To help me in developing my work, to reach more people, to be clear about how what I can offer helps, to ....... 'Dare to Blosssom' more myself.

I have been seeing this work as a quest, an inner journey to find my next steps, new purpose. Undertaking some of this work out on the cliffs has been truly wonderful - and I appreciate more and more how lucky I am. And - that I can share this with you. Part of the development is ways of doing that - ideally with you joining me here in Cornwall - and, if you are unable to do that, through my photography as part of my online groups and 1:1 programmes.

Yesterday I noticed this cloud formation.... for me, it conveys the birth of ideas, inspiration. When I reached one of my favourite rock seats, and found a spot out of the strong wind that was blowing, I began drawing cards for myself for each stage of the Power Flower. I am not ready to share them all yet - but here is the one that came out for Purpose - Aspiration. Another word, like inspiration, associated with the breath......

As you see, I have 'dismantled' the Power Flower graphic. I drew a card for each part, starting with the centre, Peace, then Purpose (as shown above), Passion, Power, and Progress. I am still working with exploring the insights of the cards that emerged for all those and may share with you another time.

And so my quest continues.....maybe you will join me to embark on your own journey in September? There will be several ways to do this, through the magic of the Internet we can be half a world away and still work closely together. I am seeing each of those words as a prompt. And they could be the heart of a seven step programme, for example: 
  • Where are you now? 
  • Peace – where is your sweet quiet centre point?
  • Purpose – what do you want to achieve, what is your gift to share with the world?
  • Passion – why? Why do you do what you do? Why do people respond to you and your work?
  • Power – how will you ‘power’ this, what is your essential and guiding light within?
  • Progress – when? When you will do this and how will you make it happen – the next small step.
  • Review and celebration – how far have you travelled? Where next?
This unfurling of the power flower could be done in a single day together, in person. It can be in the 1:1 coaching sessions on Zoom video-conferencing (probably an hour at start and finish and five half hours for the steps in between). It will be the seed from which I will develop the next online group Magic Carpet Ride Circle programme to start in October. And will continue to be the basis of the evolving workshops.

As you see through me sharing the workings of my own process with you here, this is all very new and still germinating. Putting it out publicly feels a little like putting a delicate seedling outside in the air, exposed to the sunlight, the wind, the rain for the first time to 'harden off'. By the time I write the September newsletter for you the plant will be strong and sturdy, ready to bloom, bear fruit and support others.

For you, in your meditation or journal:
- What does 'Purpose' mean for you?
- Where do you feel resistance to the word, the idea?
- If you do, why do you think that is arising, now?
- How can you feel more comfortable with that?
- And, what else is there?

Use any medium that feels good to you - flow-writing, collage, art (including doodling...), and/or simply sitting and asking and then receiving answers.

In September, as part of this review and growth, my prices will be changing. One of the challenges for any of us in pricing our own work, especially when that is a service, is to truly value what we do. As mentioned at the beginning of this newsletter, I have been investing in my own support team over the past few months (see below for the 'credits' for each of them). They have helped me - along with many of you here - to recognise how much I have been actually devaluing my work by not pricing it fairly for the effort and energy I put into it.

Whatever I decide to do, I appreciate more than I can say all the support you give me. Some of you have been reading this newsletter for years, and many of you comment regularly and send me feedback. So whatever I decide to do on pricing, there will always be special offers to show my gratitude for your friendship and loyalty. And, as I have always done, I will continue to offer special rates in particular circumstances too.

For now though, nothing has changed. There are still some places on the special offer of two sessions for the price of one, just visit the
Welcome page and scroll down to purchase 'while stocks last', or until the end of August, whichever comes first. Speaking of stocks, the same applies to the packs of Dare to Blossom Rediscovery Cards - the repackaging is taking much longer than I expected so the price is still the same at the moment (£12 plus p&p), as it has been for around five years. You will also find there special offers on buy the cards with the Companion guide.

London: "Unfurl your power within"
- 12th August, 9.30 to 4.30 - £65 - there are still just a few places left, if you are one of those not leaving London in August for holidays in Cornwall (or elsewhere - it just seems to those of us who live here that everyone from the rest of the UK comes here on holiday.....) - why not join me for a very special day.
Book here.

Cornwall: "Power: Ripening" - our year-long unfurling of the Power Flower continues at the Blue Lotus at Scorrier on 9 September (with the final petal, "Progress: Harvesting"  the topic for the final workshop on 18 November). Please note: from the 1 September the price for these two workshops (a half day, from 10-1 each time) will rise from £25 to £45. If you are a regular, the price will be fixed for you at £25 for each of these two events. And, if you have been meaning to join us - well here is your chance to book before the price rise.

And finally.....roll the credits....
In some ways I hesitate to mention names as so many, many people help me with my work and my life. Some are professionals whose services I buy, others with whom I do exchanges and co-coaching. Not to mention family, friends, clients, people I meet in groups on-line, writers whose work I read.... etc, etc. If that includes you, please know how truly grateful I am to you.

Here is a flower especially for each of you: thank you for helping me 'blow my own trumpet' in a way that tells people how I can help and still feels (just about) OK for me.

So, over the past few months I have benefited from the services of these three people, amongst all those others referred to above,. Each with a very different style, each giving me a part of the jigsaw of how I want the next version of my work and my business to be, which has combined with the support of everyone else to produce the unique offering that is mine to give.

Nicci Bonfanti of Trusted Sales Dynamics, and in particular her 'Sell like a woman' Programme. This helped me see there are different ways to sell what I do, other than the traditional 'hard-sell.'

Amy Palko's Goddess Guidance, a delicious, and intriguing mixture of legend, archetype, insights, magic - and very practical guidance on developing our work in the world.

Sheryl Andrews of Step by Step Listening, the 30-day clarity programme has - literally - helped me see more clearly, and move forward with confidence. As Sheryl describes on her website, one of the biggest lessons for those of us helping others is to apply our own tools, something we all know, and often (or I do anyway) forget to actually do.

And so, during August - as well as visiting London to stay with my dear friend Anna who is hosting the workshop in her home, I will be developing these ideas and gaining clarity on new offerings for you. Building on the solid foundations I have built over the last 14 years since I started Dare to Blossom, and growing into the new programmes, stronger, more vigorous, more powerful, than what has gone before.

As always, please feel free to comment below.

If you would like to own a set of Dare to Blossom Rediscovery cards to explore their power for yourself please visit the dedicated page.

Thank you dear friends for visiting with me again this month and sharing my musings.

Until next time,

with love,

Find 'Dare to Blossom Life Coaching' on Facebook, @daretoblossom on Twitter

Saturday, 1 July 2017

July 2017 - Curiosity

In this Issue: 

Reflections: Curiosity
A Request for Help, and a special offer 
Events: workshops in London and Cornwall

Reflections: Curiosity

Last year I wrote some thoughts on 'curiosity' in a blog piece. These are the words I began with:

"Are you curious? Do you wonder about the world around you? Do you wonder about the world within you? Do you still ask those questions as the three-year old you did - why? Why? Why?
Or, have you lost that sense of awe, that inner explorer, that curiosity? Have you been told too often that 'curiosity killed the cat'? Or that it is safer to keep your head down, not ask questions, look at the ground as you walk? To let your dreams go and stick to the daily humdrum?"

Twice in the last two days, by two different people, I have been reminded of the joy of curiosity, and of the gifts it can bring. Using the phrase, the thought: 'I wonder what it would be like if.......' is a gentle way for me to rekindle my curiosity, and - in business terms - to revive my love of what I do.

And.... a relevant question for me this month is 'I wonder what it would be like if I ceased to write and send out these newsletters?'

Maybe it is you I should be asking? The software allows me to see who opens the emails - but what I don't know is why? What makes you bother to click the link? Many people have been decluttering their in-boxes recently (myself included) and so I always send a thank you note when people unsubscribe. I would much rather you did that than for my emails to be a source of irritation for you.

For you - who have chosen to stay, and who have opened and got this far in reading - what is there here that works for you? What parts do you enjoy the most? The least?

One of my motivations for continuing is that I know that many people on my mailing list choose not to be on Facebook - so this may be the only contact we have from month to month unless you come along to workshops or take up one of my coaching programmes.

For others, you may see my posts daily on Facebook, occasionally on Twitter and LinkedIn. As you have still chosen to read this I am honoured and delighted - would you miss this way of connecting if it was discontinued? What is different about receiving this in your email to simply reading on social media?

Returning to curiosity - what is out there on the horizon? Do I choose to navigate directly to the distant island (Lundy in this picture)? Or shall I turn left or right, west or east? Or set off directly across the ocean into the unseen distance of potential?
For you, for your journal or meditation practice:
- if any phrase or word resonates with you from this piece, choose to flow write or meditate on those words
- what emerges for you?
- what gifts can you find within?
- do you wish to paint, draw, collage - express this visually in some way?

A Request for Help, and Summer Special Offer: Two for One coaching sessions

Are you aware that you are not experiencing the true joy of living right now? Do you know you can be so much more? 

Would you value a gentle and sensitive guide to help you find your way through all the decisions? 

You and I both know that your inner wisdom is just there, just outside your conscious awareness, yes? With some carefully crafted questions, some still, quiet time to think and the Dare to Blossom Cards and process you can give your inner wisdom time to be heard and cherished.

I have set myself a goal to support 100 people this year to tap into their own inner wisdom. So far I have worked with 54 people and you could help me achieve my goal

Are you fed up of feeling stuck or having decisions made for you? Then I am offering 2 free coaching sessions to the first four people to put their hands up.

To do that - to raise your hand - just click on the passionflower image, and book a twenty minute complimentary consultation.

If you are not one of the first four, I have a 'two-for-one' offer running through to the end of August, we can discuss the details when we speak. If you don't want to wait, just go to the Welcome page on the website here, and scroll down to find the booking link.

Events: workshops in London and Cornwall

Those of you who are regular readers will know that the series of Unfurl your Power Within workshops is running at the Blue Lotus Healing Centre in Scorrier near Redruth. The next event is on Saturday 8 July, when we will be unfurling the petal for 'Passion: opening to the sun''. Full details are on the website here, and there are two more to follow this year, in September and November, completing the unfurling of the Power Flower.

A full day workshop at my dear friend Anna's house in NW London. We have already sold two places so if you are in travelling distance of London in August and this is calling to you, here are the details. Places are limited to six or possibly seven, contact me direct by replying to this email if you are interested in booking.

Date: Saturday 12 August
Time: 10am to 4.30pm. Please arrive from 9.30am for tea, and a prompt start at 10am.
Venue: 77 Elton Avenue, Greenford, Middlesex UB6 0PP
Catering: A variety of hot drinks and nibbles provided, but bring anything specific you need to enable you to be comfortable (such as a specific tea or type of milk). Lunch will be 'bring and share' - 'breaking bread' together is an integral part of the day. Please let me know it you have special dietary requirements.
Price: £65 per person

Here are Anna's words of invitation:

"I am delighted to invite you a workshop I will be hosting, at my home, for my dear friend and soul sister, Mary Lunnen. Mary and I (who happen to share the same birthday!) met during my Cornwall years and have remained in close contact, since my return to London, supporting one another in our personal journeys. I've had the privilege of working with Mary both at workshops, and personal coaching sessions, on a number of occasions, and have always been deeply touched at where her deceptively simple, yet profound. work has taken me.

Please consider joining us for a glorious day of exploration and the chance to hang out with some wonderful people!!"

This will be a day of journeying together, using the Dare to Blossom Rediscovery cards, to take us on a magic carpet ride, a creative guided visualisation to rediscover our inner wisdom and unleash the power within each of us. A power - not to control others - a power to shine from within. To find our inner purpose, passion, and peace - and through these to decide how to progress next in our lives. These words are combined in the Dare to Blossom Power Flower - a process that developed through my inner work, with the support of my own life coaches.

Combining these tools and techniques provides a structure and a container for our day together. and provides the freedom to share as much, or as little, as you wish. To journal and flow-write; to explore the prompts provided by the cards and the unfurling process. All in a safe, non-judgemental, supportive environment, where each of us is heard and witnessed.

As always, please feel free to comment below with your thoughts and comments. 

If you would like to own a set of Dare to Blossom Rediscovery cards to explore their power for yourself please visit the dedicated page.

Thank you dear friends for visiting with me again this month and sharing my musings.

Until next time,

with love,

Find 'Dare to Blossom Life Coaching' on Facebook, @daretoblossom on Twitter