Friday, 28 October 2022

November 2022 - Connection

Reflections: Connection

"Your Cornwall Quest"
Final group programme for 2022: "Time for You" four week offering
Book news "Your Compass Rose Speaks - Rediscover Your Inner Wisdom"

Dare to Blossom Monthly Circles on Zoom - a choice of day and time
Plans for 2023: "Weaving Shadow and Light" Programme
One to one coaching



Reflections: Connection

An intuitive friend recently offered me this word - Connection - in response to my question: "What will I be writing next?"

She also said it could be an essay, or a book, or something else - in any case, I thought I would begin here and share a few thoughts on 'Connection' with you.

I could say this is one of  my key values, in my life and in my work. Connecting with others, from my heart as much as feels comfortable and safe. Aha - it seems to me that right at the beginning I have hit upon something significant for me. So often, in the past, and although less so, maybe now as well, I have missed out on that true connection through being afraid of how I would be received. Worried that I, or the other person, would feel uncomfortable.



And yet, over and over again, I have been shown that taking that step forwards, towards someone else - another human being who may well be feeling the same - is completely worth any 'risk' I may perceive.  I do feel I need to say here that in some circumstances personal safety does of course come first. In fact, if I can bypass my fearful mind, my gut, my body-knowing, will soon tell me if it feels right to proceed with offering connection. And tell me when to say 'No' and to retreat.

Connections can come in many forms: emails, messages, chance meetings in a shop or on the street. Travelling alone has brought me delightful conversations, on a plane, a train, a ship. Some of these are a fleeting joy, others have blossomed into deep and lasting friendships. And the much-maligned 'social media' has brought me many true connections - so much so that upon meeting in person much later, it can seem strange to say we have 'just met'.

And then there are the connections with the land, with this mother earth of ours beneath our feet. For some of us this is with the place of our birth. Even though my family moved away from my birthplace, Lyndhurst in the New Forest, (in Hampshire, on the south coast of England), when I was very young, I have always felt deeply rooted there amongst the ancient trees.

This photo was taken on a visit to the New Forest with my husband, some years ago now, probably around this time of year.




Most of my life since has been spent in Cornwall (with a few years living on the southern edge of Dartmoor, bringing another powerful connection) - and the longest time has been right here, near the north coast. As those of you who see my photos and videos in these newsletters or on Facebook will know, I very often visit the same small stretch of the cliffs, overlooking the Atlantic Ocean. Each time the sky and sea, the weather and the wind, the birds and the flowers growing in the ground beneath my feet are different. 



These two photos are taken from the same stretch of the coastal path. Both with the sun shining, each with different sea conditions and skies.



Walking familiar paths, wherever you are, and enjoying that familiarity, while also seeing with fresh eyes, can bring a powerful sense of connection. With the land, the elements, the creatures around us, with our bodies and with ourselves. 

As I was finishing this, I decided to simply search on the word, 'connection' and see what the Internet would show me. I found this
video by One Republic.

The lyrics speak about being lonely in a crowd, and of not finding connection in the online world. As I have already mentioned, the way I have been fortunate enough to make links online has led to true connections for me.

There is something else for me also - that connection I feel watching a wonderful sunset or gazing up at all the stars in the Milky Way on a clear night. What else is out there that I cannot see, maybe cannot even comprehend? That feeling of being a small piece of something much much bigger than myself. And then, my point of view expands and I am that bigger energy - I can feel a connection within the weave of life, of the Universe.


I have always described this feeling as an image: of each of us connected by a thread in the multi-coloured tapestry of life. Sometimes the thread is simply there and we may never consciously connect. Or we may meet and feel that stronger sense of companionship. Sometimes the link ebbs and flows. I know I have had many experiences of spending a lot of time with someone, and then that connection feeling as if it is fading away. Sometimes it never reappears, yet maybe one day one of us will metaphorically give a tug on the thread that links us.

"Hello, how are you?" And the connection may renew and deepen again for a while. 

If you are reading this and we haven't connected for a while, and if you would like to, do reply and say hello, let me know how you are - maybe there is a reason why we will be drawing closer together in the weave of the Universe for a while?


For you, for your meditations or journal, one or more of these suggestions may appeal to you:

  • What is your first response to the word 'connection'?
  • What else is there?
  • And, what else?
  • How do you feel connected to the land where you live?



Book news: "Your Compass Rose Speaks - Rediscover Your Inner Wisdom"

I have been awaiting news of the projected publication date for the new book. As often happens things can take longer than one might hope. At the same time, I know that all is proceeding just perfectly and it will be ready at the perfect moment.

I am hoping that the final version of the cover will be ready soon after this newsletter is released. In the meantime, here is a sneak peek just for you - as soon as the final version is released and the publication date finalised I will very much appreciate your help in spreading the word to anyone who may be interested in buying a copy.

In the meantime this is a 'secret', just between us!




What is your first response? 

Personally, I love what Alice from the Golden Dragonfly Press has created; after much debate over possible designs, this one feels perfect to me. I can't wait to see the absolutely final version with the back cover too.

"Your Cornwall Quest"



Many of you will remember that three years ago, in 2019, I offered 'Your Aotearoa Quest", when I invited you to 'stow away in my suitcase' and come along on my trip to New Zealand. Maybe you booked a place for the card with your name written on it, that was tucked away in the bag that went everywhere with me? If so - thank you.

At the moment, I am not able to plan another visit there - yet I can offer you another opportunity to metaphorically travel with me.

This time it will be "Your Cornwall Quest": the process will be the same, you will book your place; I will write your name on a small card; I will carry that with me for the duration of the Quest; later I will draw four Dare to Blossom Rediscovery Cards for you, one for each direction of the Compass Rose. In January 2023 I send them, with your name card, to you in the post.

Bookings will open for you to buy a 'ticket', on 1st November, and close on 1st December. I will be carrying you, as represented by your name card, wherever I go, out and about around Cornwall from then until 1st January. To all those special places in this magical land of stone and sea, river and trees.




After that date I will prepare reflections and photographs in a pdf document that will be sent to you by email or Messenger, whichever you prefer.

There will be two live Zoom calls for you to participate in as well, one before bookngs close, and one in January, after you have received your cards, and the pdf file. Here is a link to the Facebook event for the first, on Monday 14th November at 11.00 am UK time. If you prefer, simply reply to this email asking me for the Zoom link or contact me here.

The ticket fee is £44, with a discount for you if you participated in the Aotearoa Quest, or if you are a member of the Stay Connected Group (just contact me if you wish to claim that).

Simply book your place here, or contact me to pay by bank transfer - or if you would like to arrange a Zoom chat to decide if this is for you. The cost of posting your cards anywhere in the world is included.

There is also the option to book a 30 minute one to one coaching session with me in January to dive deeper into the insights you receive through the cards and the experience of the Quest,


Final group programme for 2022: "Time for You" four week offering

The final group offering of 2022 will be a four-week gentle circle on the theme of "Time for You" - allowing you to take at least an hour each week for yourself in what can be a very busy time for many as we navigate our way through the annual festive season. It can also be a time when loneliness and loss can be highlighted, whether you are in the centre of a bustling household or literally by yourself. 



The Circle can offer a place for all and any experiences simply to be witnessed without judgement - and that does not mean that you have to share anything, it is the simple act of gathering together that brings the community and support we can crave. When and if you feel like sharing this brings added depth for you, and gifts for those of us witnessing for you in the Circle. Even though this is a virtual community and we gather on Zoom, the connections are real and powerful.

The booking link is on the website here, The basic details are that there will be two taster circles, one on Wednesday 16th November at 11.00 am, and another on Thursday 17th November at 2.30 p,m. (UK times). Find the events on Facebook  or simply reply here and I will send you the Zoom link for the one you choose to attend.

The programme will begin on Monday 21 November, with the weekly Zoom calls on Mondays and/or Thursdays depending the wishes of those who sign up to join me. The fee for the four weeks is £96, and as always there is a discount for members of the Stay Connected group of precious participants.

If you would like to know more simply reply to this email, or
contact me here to ask any questions or to arrange a time for a Zoom chat.



Dare to Blossom Monthly Circles on Zoom - a choice of day and time

The drop-in circles are usually held twice each month The next date is Saturday 12th November at 11.00 am.and  Monday 28th November at 7.30 pm (UK times). I am considering not offering the Monday evening time as my energy is rather low on winter evenings and it can be a challenge to feel I am supporting those present the best that I could. However, I will decide on that closet to the end of the month.

If you feel especially drawn to joining us at either or both (and especially on 28th) please do let me know so I can have an ideas of the interest and send you the appropriate Zoom link.





You can find the events on Facebook,  or simply reply to this email and ask me for the Zoom link. It is always pleasure to welcome those of you who prefer not to connect via social media, all you need to join us is the Zoom link that I send to you in advance of the time.

Payment is by donation, depending on your circumstances. People offer from zero to £60. I host the circles with no expectation, simply deep gratitude for your presence. 

 

Plans for 2023: "Weaving Shadow and Light" Programme

While deliberating on the theme for the first six-week turn around the Compass Rose, I have had some queries about when I will run "Weaving Shadow and Light" again - and so, this will be the first offering of the new year.

As those of you who are regular participants in my circles know, I do often repeat a theme that has struck a chord for people. Many of the prompts may be the same, and I also tweak different parts as the group gathers and the flow begins. In any case the magical alchemy that happens in the gaps between the structure I often is the real essence of all this work - what you bring, what others bring. Which cards are drawn, for the group and for each of us each week. What visions of Magic Carpet Rides you experience yourself and hear shared by the others in the group.

Every element creates a unique and specific experience for those present. The overarching theme of "Weaving Shadow and Light" is about appreciating all those parts of ourselves, and maybe especially the ones we judge as 'not good enough', 'bad', 'unacceptable' - we can offer ourselves any number of negative and harsh responses. In nature all the contrasts are a part of the whole: night and day; summer and winter; hot and cold; and of course yin and yang.




The seeds that will be starting to germinate in January when we embark on this programme could not do so without the soft darkness of the earth to nurture and protect them until the roots reach downwards and the tender green shoot are ready to emerge into the light.

I will share full details and dates in the December newsletter, in the meantime, if you would like to know more, simply reply to this newsletter with your questions. We can also arrange a time to chat on Zoom if that would be useful for you (and it is always fun too).

(PS the photo is of the beautiful Yin/Yang garden my husband created some years ago. I have done my best to keep it weeded and cleared of fallen leaves over the years, but since we have had our brown hens they have completely mixed up the dark and light gravel.)


One to One Coaching

For many people, the deeper connection of one to one sessions is perfect for them once in a while, either for a short block of six, or an on-going arrangement as and when required.

Either way, I would love to have a Zoom chat with you if you would like to explore the option of one to one coaching with me. There is no pressure, simply an opportunity to find out what would be useful for you, and if my approach would be good for you. 




If you click on the 'Book Now' Passionflower, it will take you straight to my calendar to book a twenty minute complimentary call. If you prefer, to read more about the Rediscovery Coaching process click here,  

“I have found my sessions with Mary to be a good balance of ideas for the practical things I can do, and the bigger picture reminder of what I want to achieve. This has helped clarify the direction  I want to take and also sparked ideas of how to get there. Mary helps as a reminder to stay true to my experiences and has allowed me to be comfortable with who I am and having balance in life and my work.” 

You can read more testimonials here on my website.

A complete review of one to one coaching offers and pricing is planned before April 2023, so if you think you would like to explore the possibility of accessing my support as we come to the end of this year, act now - if not now, then when? When will you dare to blossom?




I send wishes for health and happiness for you and all you love.

Thank you for joining me here this month, any thoughts, feedback, or questions are always welcome.

 

Mary

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